A few years ago we went through a very bad patch in life and I'd say pretty much all our friends bar one fell by the wayside.
As you can imagine, she is a valued friend : friend A
She is still friends with the people who let me down, and while I hear about them from time to time, I felt settled enough about it.
Recently, my DH insisted on inviting some friends of his to a BBQ we had.
The wife of this couple (friend B) met A and they have become good friends now and organise meet ups without me.
It hurts, more than it should, and I think it is because of the history with friend A and the "old group" and everything that happened.
I feel that B might not want to be my friend but does want to be friends with A which written down does sound rather immature.
But I think that feeling is coming from this old history because the group wanted to be friends with A and not me and they were a group of friends from our twenties, many years ago, when I was less mature.
I think it is also hurting as recently we have been through another bad patch and A has been the only one who has been there for me.
I just needed to write that down. It actually feels like to me that this upset about A and B is actually stemming from other stuff : being let down by the "group" in the past and then having moved on, again being let down by the newer friends I had made.
Maybe I just need to recognise what a lovely friend A is and that actually people do let you down, but you only find a handful of true friends in life.