Exh and I split up in 2008 no contact since, no DC together dd1 was 9 at the time and we had been together since she was 3. The reason for splitting up was he was lovely with did to start with (for 4 years) then when we married he seemed to change
. No shouting or obvious nastiness just little things like making her feel a bit stupid for not grasping her times tables. Or making her sit and finish her dinner even if unwell/tired. As far as our relationship went at the time I thought it was OK, looking back I realise I spent a lot of time walking on eggshells.
Often I would get the silent treatment for days without really knowing what I had done. I would then beg for forgiveness or just do anything to get him back onside. I asked him to go for counselling and he broke down and told me to go' in his mind if he couldn't talk to me then he couldn't talk to a stranger
. I did leave and move back to my home town that I had left 15 years previously. His current do of 5 years has contacted me on the dreaded fb at the end of her tether asking me if he behaved in the above manner with me after a few years or if it is down to her? Do I contact her or not? Sorry just realised how long this is.