a heartfelt message replying to rainbowsmiles.
PMDD.
since your advice re possible pmdd , I have scoured the internet for information/forums, and have felt a shiver go down my back upon reading the long term suffering pmdd has cause to women lasting for decades, such as my dd.
all the symptoms are there, the anger, broken relationships, fatigue, depression, suicidal thoughts and so on.
I am positive that I am not " applying" my dd's symptoms to pmdd, as a way to explain her behaviour, to make it easier to understand.
on forums I have read so many sad stories of women in a similar situation, especially important when they say that it all began when they were 13 or 14, as with my dd.
she was transformed from a happy laughing much loved child into an angry, hateful, hostile person literally the very day she became 13.
so, now, the next step in this sadness, is where to go from here?
she refuses all contact with her whole family, then unexpectedly,3 days ago, totally out of the blue, has emailed her ds who lives abroad, after many years of nc.
at one point when she was in my life, she actually told me that if I didn't go nc with my other dd (the one she emailed), she would never talk to me again,.
( I explained as kindly -and as bravely- as I could, again the eggshells, that I would not go nc and she didn't mention it again.
so, this is the present day scenario.
elder dd ( 50yrs)has now received 4 sweet, giggly type emails from younger dd, (45yrs)writing as though their relationship has been sweet and loving with never a harsh word spoken and they are bosom buddies.
a very confusing time tbh.
any ideas anyone please?