My dp is making me really sad. I don't know what the answer is. There are loads of small issues that we end up rowing about at times but the biggy is sex. The mood in the house and the treatment myself and the kids get from him is all dependent on whether he has had any sex/fondling and i can't stand it any longer.
The pattern is always the same, we have sex and for about a week after he behaves like a normal, nice person but any longer and he's awful. Shouting at me for basically nothing, doesn't want to go anywhere etc etc. He says that if i don't want sex (which i often don't, v low sex drive ) then i should pleasure him in other ways but i don't want to because i feel blackmailed into it, he reckons it's his right so it's a viscious circle and it's making me really sad. The other thing he has said to me is that he's not happy spending all weekend every weekend with us, he wants to go to the pub with his mates some afternoons. I always say no way, that he can go at night when the kids are in bed because i don't want to do all the childcare at weekends as well as in the week. When my youngest son was a baby he was in the pub every sunday for hours and hours and eventually i told him he had to stop or that was it for us because he can't just go for a couple of pints it's a big session. Am i being unreasonable? I think he regrets getting tied down and if we had no children i don't think we'd be together. Sorry for the moaning but i have noone else to talk to.