His temper and selfishness is driving me crazy! Help!

[Lilimum2be]

Ok so I've been with my now fiancé for almost 10 years and we are expecting our first baby after mc last year. We are excited but having some teething problems with work and money etc. I recently had no choice but to leave my job BUT my friend has offered me work which will help us tremendously!! My man is not up for it, he says it's because it's too far if something were to happen! It's all going to be on him and I'm not up for that! Yesterday we had a fetal Doppler delivered (that I ordered and paid for) I really wanted to record the heartbeat to share with my family (I'm from a very big family he isn't) he kicked off and said why when it's our baby? Why do we have to tell everyone our business?! He then started swearing and hollering which we agreed we wouldn't do anymore as tiny ears could now hear us to which he replies " I swear I want to punch you hard in your face!!" Honestly I don't know what to do, I'm really stuck. He's not usually like this, he's loving and very caring but he has got a horrible way with words!

Kentishgirl makes a lot of sense here. We only know one side don't we? We don't really know how the OP and her OH relate to each other and she might very well give as good as she gets and might very well threaten him on occasion which is why I asked that question earlier on as sometimes things are not what they seem.

Wow thank you for all your replies. I appreciate them all and love the difference in opinion. I understand our baby does not speak English but we are trying to stop the swearing in time for our baby when he/she can pick things up. Trying to get in the habit of letting bad habits go in order to be responsible parents.
I don't want to make him sound like a big scary abuser, he does have a temper and I do try and avoid him when he is like that.
I'm not perfect, I am very sarcastic and I do have an attitude however I do not deserve to be threatened! I have never been violent or aggressive. I cry when I'm angry and this can be very frustrating when I wanna stick up for myself!
I am going to be going to my parents for a week, have some space and breathing time. I also think I'm going to take the job, I don't want him to feel like he has to do everything and plus I'd like to buy things myself.
I left my job as I was unfairly treated, I have posted about it on here.
Thank you all again x

Lili, you should not try to avoid him when he threatens you.
You should avoid him forever and altogether.

There is no way you can control him or his temper. Sometimes we are too proud to recognise that and think are strong enough to do it. But we are not, particularly with a little baby in arms.

Even recognising your part in the dynamics, it shows that it's not a healthy relationship.

Seriously leave.

Indeed,
Leave now while you can. Or your child will be hearing much worse than swear words -
they will be hearing that you are a lazy bh who does fing nothing except spend his money while he goes to work.
That your family are all worthless scumbags
and if you disagree with any of this your child will hear their father saying that he 'will punch you hard in your face'
Is that what you want?
Use your time at your parents to think safely, wisely and honestly

I appreciate them all and love the difference in opinion.

Hmm, I didn't see much difference of opinion here. The vast majority of posters all seem to be saying the same thing.

A relationship where you have to avoid someone's temper is not right. I'm concerned that you blame yourself with 'I am not perfect' and your 'attitude' as if that makes it Ok to be on the receiving end of his kicking off and threats. I'm also concerned that you end up crying when you get angry because that suggests you feel powerless.

The stress of new parenthood tends not to make angry people calmer.