think it may be over

[jesy]

I've been seeing this bloke for nearly 2 months now n we get on we'll but there were a few issues his drinking ,kids and fact he slapped my bum not hard during being intimate that have played on my mind in last 2 weeks or so but yesterday I was majorly upset and its continued today and I said him it was coming up to the date I would have given birth if not mc his reaction it brings back bad dreams for him.
He sweet n I do t want to hurt him but that not normal is it?
I'll be honest I've been chatting to some one for a week or so off pof who yesterday's was brilliant at helping me, but part of me thinks maybe I shouldn't see the original bloke he seemed to Care but his reaction hurt .

It is hard making friends, especially when you're not getting out. But the energy you put into the wrong man, is energy and time you could have had to do something for you, where you might have met someone.
I moved to a new town and it took me YEARS to feel I had a proper friend here - and I think I'm reasonably confident socially (not the life and soul though!).

Have you had a chat with your GP? I think I've understood that you're not really getting out to walk your dog? That sounds like depression?

I'd say as a start, try to get out for a good daily walk with pooch. Do a regular route popular with dog walkers and you'll get on nodding terms with them. Might not turn into friendship, but just being acknowledged by someone when you're lonely can help. The exercise will make you feel better in yourself too.

And don't worry about people paying for coffee, family for takeaway - they WANT to!
I earned more than a mate who'd just moved back from another country unexpectedly - I paid every time. It's just money. I wanted to see him. And family - well, I'd cry if I found out my daughter couldn't accept me treating her! She's my girl! You look after your parents - it's all just different ways to show love!

Stop seeing the man who hit you.

Stop messaging other men on POF.

Have some time alone as you seem desperate to be with a man and you need to realise you don't need a man in your life to be a whole person.

He didn't hit me he slapped my bum while we were kissing etc. And before I get all the dv info I know all about freedom programme and have done a course in it as part of my training.
I don't need a man to be happy in 30 years of being alive I've had a bf for less than 18 months.
The bloke off pof won't work out he is friends with my ex

The slap obviously bothered you since you mentioned it in your OP.

I really, really don't think a slap on the bum during sex constitutes as dv! It's ok not to like it and to ask him not to do it again though. It sounds as though the relationship isn't working out, you don't owe him anything and are perfectly entitled to finish it just because you want to.

Maybe ask the GP fora counselling referral too, you have some very negative and self-defeating thought processes going on at the moment.

I never said it was DV but if she was fine with it I doubt she would have written what she did in the OP. Anyway, she has more pressing things to deal with and I wish you luck, OP>

im sorry if I was snappy earlier , im not feeling 100 % and a bit stressy today ive had ppl call about jobs but its all happening in one day and struggling to cope the one job I know I have no chance of getting as not experienced enough so debating what to do on plus side job center just called to say they will pay for my travel so even if I don't get it be a nice couple of hours sat on a train!!!!!

Definitely go! It's all good practice, and you never know when an interviewer will click with you, or think you'll fit their team and that can give you an edge over experience! Also you sometimes get the "you're not ready for this role, but we have xyz..."
So good luck!

Dump the bloke who isn't making you happy, you don't owe him anything.
Concentrate on you, the job search, and hanging out with your pooch!

Pooch deserted me for night got a better offer lol