Should I? Or listen to my gut instinct....

[SqueeksAway]

Ok I meet an attractive guy at work I'm encouraging about training and promotion he mentions that he's single et I think ooooo

Te next day he turns up at my lunch period to 'chat' but I'm with a friend for a meeting about a project we are doing together he says he'll come back

Turns up next day and he says he's doing a photography course and wants to use me as a model I say yes facepalm but he starts using words I reckon are a bit odd like seductive and tempting esp as I have a student working with me in the room but then

I get a text saying he is thinking risqué photos and hopes I'm ok with that - I say er no I'm not as it's inappropriate to do with work - he asks me out for a drink I say yes.... Then omfg I'm bombarded with texts - can I FaceTime him can I install whatsapp he must chat to me asap etc when can we meet up I back off and ignore him but then

I think he is attractive looking and this could just be keen I might be missing out...... So yesterday I text an apology but then

Back to being bombarded with texts I arrange a drink on Saturday but say I need to be up early so will be early night - I suggest somewhere near him and as I go to bed see he's suggested somewhere near me - I leave it as if he sees I've read his text he texts again asking what I think but then

I find he's asked himself over to sleep on my sofa.... seriously I've talked to this guy for ten minutes and he's already asked to use me as a glamour model n to kip over

I can't figure out if he is a wonderful free spirit with no boundary issues or need of personal space who it would be worth pursuing a friendship with or a total nut job doing the dance of the seven red flags

Please MN experts help me!

Please promise us you will not date this man.

Possibly move house & job also.

RUN

And don't answer his texts any more. You don't need to explain yourself to him, just stop replying. It's not like you have established a relationship in which you owe him an explanation for going AWOL.

Just go AWOL until he finds his next victim.

Always listen to your gut instinct!

Don't even run. Do something faster than run.

I'm a little worried about your radar though, tbh.

What made you agree to modelling (ew) and then encouraging such a total weirdo by agreeing to meet him??

Not a judgement, btw. Just baffled!

And YY report anything inappropriate to HR.

Yes, run.

Although I would really really like you to go on a date with him just so you can tell us what a disaster it was, it's probably a bad idea. He could be an unruly puppy or a more sinister sleaze ball.

You have been giving this guy even the time of day ?

See how he reacts when you tell him you will be retaining all rights to the photos and if they are used in any form with out your express permission your solicitor will be seeking compensation for emotional distress, breach of copyright and probably a few other things the solicitor could think up to bankrupt him completely.

your gut is right.

In the nicest possible way OP, I think you need to recalibrate your weirdo radar.

It must be working, because you posted on here. Your gut knew it, but you weren't sure, as perhaps you were trying to see the best in him.

Listen to your gut, it is looking out for you. There are some nice men out there, good luck

What Norbert said. In fact not even a 25 foot pole (property of another) with a condom on the end!

He's a shag monkey.

If you did go on a date with him I predict he would be angling to stay on the sofa in your bed, would be charm personified in order to cajole you into a ONS, which would be shit, and following which he would blatantly, and awkwardly, ignore you at work.

Honestly, don't go there!

I agree with Michonnes
You need to re-read your original post.
None of that is OK.

RUN FOR THE HILLS!
THEY ARE THAT WAY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

He's a freak! Run!

Listen to your gut and to MN!

Runnnn! and ... yeah, re-establish boundaries at work. Ask him to stop texting you and if he doesn't, let HR know. Protect yourself, becuase he's creepy as hell

Lol in my defence the initial request was framed as one of a series of character portraits and I've got quite defined bone structure so though I thought hmmm it wasn't outrageous - the risqué bit was tho n I totally went off him especially after the dozen texts he sent without me replying then reconsidered when a friend mentioned she'd met him and what a lovely person he was - ok way off there.....

Anyway I paraphrased pooroldcat's masterpiece, pointed out how inappropriate added a large scoop of sarcasm, then blocked him just after I posted here so I can't receive messages

Sigh why can't men who are single attractive intelligent and bonkers ring a large bell to warn you off

Sigh why can't men who are single attractive intelligent and bonkers ring a large bell to warn you off

Er, he did

Oh I am honoured

Well done

Sadly I suspect he probably spends an inordinate amount of his free time ringing a rather small bell.

It's good news that it won't be pictures of you he's looking at while he does it.