Is this normal?

[Objection]

I've been living with OH for just over 3 and a half years.
I love him a lot and find him attractive (most of the time) but recently I have hated him touching me; not just sex but even kissing or holding hands. It's made me feel really confined and uncomfortable, especially kissing, and I can tell it hurts his feelings (he's a very touchy loved up bloke).
This happens fairly frequently and lasts about a month or so

I generally live quite a stressful life anyway, working 60+ hour weeks but things have been particularly stressful at the moment as I'm having to interview for my own job (temp contract) against external candidates.

I feel really really guilty and am starting to think he deserves someone who actually wants contact with him instead of cringing away.

Is this normal or is there something wrong with me or even our relationship?

I'm 22 btw and OH is 27.

Sorry - I probably haven't been very clear.

I was very clumsily trying to answer a PP question:

If you envisage the exact same relationship as now (same future, same amount of sex etc) but with much less day to day touchy-feeliness, is that the ideal?

I am happy with the relationship if I could remain being less touchy-feely without the guilt.

ie. "yes"

That would have been easier wouldn't it? Crikey, my communication skills are off today.

Right, so what I think Cog is saying is that the guilt is not something you should be feeling about what may be simply a personal preference for less tactility.

Assuming that's what it is. If he wants to hold hands ten times and you only want to five times out of those ten, I think that's a difference in tactility and it's perfectly reasonable for you to express it, without feeling guilty about it.

If you mean you barely touch him at all, in any affectionate way, for days on end, and cannot stand kissing him during that time... well, that sounds pretty miserable as a standard to tolerate in a relationship. Why would either of you want that?

What I'm saying is that, in a good relationship, compromise should only go so far. Everyone should feel comfortable and able to be themselves and not feel obliged to modify their natural preference too much for the sake of pleasing the other.