My best friend has been in a relationship for a year, she moved in with him about 6 months ago, they have 4 DC between them. certain things shes said to me over the last few months have rang alarm bells , excessive jealousy, controlling behaviour on his part, not 'allowing' her to do certain things.
Upto today, ive very gently suggested that those behaviours are not the actions of someone in a healthy relationship; but ive always trod carefully in case she thinks im interfering for the wrong reasons.
She rang me this morning and told me everything; and it all points to classic abusive behaviour. Not allowing her to sit in a different room to him, accusing her of cheating, completely unfounded acusations, sending abusive text messages about various 'slights' shes done to upset him, i could go on, but you get the picture.
My lovely fruend is tying herself up in knots trying to please this pathetic manchild, and wondering constantly what shes doing wrong, in the meantime is turning into a frightened Mouse.
I told her, in no uncertain terms today, exactly what i thought, i told her that if she carries on in this relationship it wouldnt get any better; that he was abusive, that she should take her children and go, before it gets worse.
I am very very worried for her. Did i do the right thing by spilling my guts to her like that, and giving my opinion?? what happens next?? How can i help her??