Constant harassment from ex

[Aloneandnowwhat]

Hi me exp moved out 5ish weeks ago and since that day I've had daily calls, texts and harassment.
I've been allowing contact with our two ds as I believe it's the right thing to do, however he continues to verbally abuse me in front of them. It reached a new level today when he called me a f-ing cunt, a slut and said he hopes I die from AIDs.
I've decided enough is enough, I can't have my house windows open or blinds open. I can't put rubbish out in case he's lurking.
Problem I have is contact and how to stop this harassment. I tried contacting womens aid but couldn't get through.
Does anyone have advice please?

You've told him no. If he turns up call the police and tell them how he's making you terrified in your own home.

Make enquiries about a non molestation order. The DV team may be able to guide you to somewhere that can do it for free for you if money is an issue.

Get as much of this behaviour recorded as it'll help you secure legal aid to protect yourself and your dc from him.

Speak to ncdv about a non-molestation order please.

If there is no order in place you can stop contact. At this point he could apply for a contact order because you are no longer facilitating contact and the court would look at what is in the best interests of the child. Having a non-molestation order would support that he is abusive.

If you speak to women's aid on 0808 2000 247 they should put you in touch with your local organisation who will provide a worker to guide you properly through what action you should take and when in order to best protect you and the dc.

Has he been warned by police for harassing you? It is rubbish that they can only arrest for breach of the peace. He could have been arrested for assault for a start if he was causing you to fear immediate unlawful violence when he was banging.

Ask the police about harassment.

If there is no contact order in place.

This explains the welfare principle that should be applied to a contact order decision.

Hi offred the police have visited him twice to warn him off, he doesn't see that as a bad thing like I would.
I will contact those you mentioned with regards to a non molestation order. Thank you.

Ok, keep reporting to the police then. You shouldn't have a problem getting an order with the history of police reports I would think.

protection from harassment

They should at some point be prosecuting him under the above act having warned him to stop. Check they are taking action under this legislation and not just unofficially advising him perhaps?

Thanks Offred I really appreciate you taking the time to give me advice.
It's all been pretty quiet, met ex in a very public place today with children for an hour. DS happy to play with ex but would not go away from me with him, I'm sure it's just because of the behaviour he's witnessed. Ex wants increased contact when I go back to work in a week, if he's off work he wants them all day. I've already agreed with childminder that they will be with her all day, with ex collecting them for a couple of hours once or twice a week.
I'm sure this arrangement will be the next thing to cause trouble with ex, I'm trying to do what I think is best for the children and they live the childminder and are comfortable there.
Let's just say I'm prepared for the trouble headed my way!

probably yes, but at least you aren't going to be constantly blindsided by his abuse if you're understanding and predicting the pattern well.

Being with the childminder sounds best!