I am having a really bad time at the moment, just separated, waiting for DH to move into the flat he has just bought, we are both at my parents at the moment.
Thing is DH is constantly making me feel guilty about the fact that I will have our DD full time, says I can never understand what this is doing to him, that he won't be able to put her to bed every night etc etc. I understand this and know it is really hard, I have offered for him to visit any time, he can take her on holidya in the half term coming up, that I will take her to his for dinner etc, but he still insists that whatever I do won't help.
However, whilst I can empathise to a certain extent, he also makes me angry. He is going to stay in London at his parents house all week despite moaning how little time he will get to spend with DD, he is doing this because he "doesn't feel comfortable" at my parents, which is understandable, but they are at work until at least 6 every day and he is on the school holidays....he has all day PIL free! Also when we were living apart temporarily before (whilst he sold the house), I offered to bring her over to see him (we were in 2 different towns and neither drives), I asked him to come over to see us and he refused, he didn't see her for about 3 weeks! When asked about this he said "it was too painful to visit".
Whilst I have some sympathy I am sick of him putting himself first, he is now talking about not coming here to visit as he doesn't feel comfortable, despite the fact that my parents have bent over backwards to be nice and help him all they can. To me it looks as though he wants to be hard done by, am I being evil just wanting him to put DD first and get on with things?