A bit of background, 18 months ago, I was a very happy SAHM with a couple of part time work days from home. My yougest was just 2 and a year away from starting nursery. H had been suffering impossible mood swings and was always miserable with him finally walking out on his job at that time. I immediately swung into action and got him to seek medical advise. He was diagnosed with work related stress and signed off for 3 months. After the three months, he decided not to return to work since he hated it there and wanted to dedicate more time to the things that he wanted to do ie: his hobbies. I desperately wanted him to be happy so set about returning to wrk on a full time basis at the cost of my precious time with my DC's. During this whole perod of time, H has left me to manage all the finances, supporting the whole family, taking sole responsibility for paying bills and when it became apparent that the money I was pulling in was not enough he, just wanted to ignore the problem and would start shouting at me if I ever tried to talk to him about it.... Something to do with his own feelings of inadequecy aparently. It has got to a point where we argue every weekend. The arguments generally start from nothing more than me wanting to discuss something that affects the family and I have tried so many different ways of broaching subjects to try to avoid the inevitble row but, nothing makes any difference, he reacts like a child whenever he doesnt want to talk about something, raises his voice and storms out of the house for sometimes hours at a time. Last week, he finally took it on bpard how worried I am about our finances and went out to get himsef a part-time job. The job he has got is for 2 nights a week... So this morning, I am told that he will be ot those two nights this week, as well as another 4 nights pursuing his hobbies. I said very quietly that that meant I would be rushing home from work every night this week to take over childcare and then spend every evening alone. He went ballistic blaming the fact that he had to work. When I pointed out that only covered 2 of his 6 nights out and that perhaps, in order to work, he should consider trimming down on his hobbies a bit, I was told flat out that he was not prepared to do that. During the course of this argument, I have spoken only about the matter in hand whilst he has accused me of being selfish, having mental health problems, has slagged off my mother (happens during every row because he knows it hurts me), has told me that he would be perfecty happy not to see me for a week, has pushed his face up into mine aggressively resulting on me stumbling backwards and falling over to which, he replied that I had purposly thrown myself on the floor because I am sick.... I really can't tak eit anymore, every weekend these things happen and I am sure that I am not asking too much from him, in fact, quite the opposite... I feel like my happiness and needs come so far down his ist of priorities whilst I have been breaking myself to try to make him be happy. It feels like all I have done is stupidly enabled a grown man to behave like a spoilt child and in return, I get a whole load of abuse. Is it unreasonable of me to have said anything about him being out 6 nights a week when I am working full time to support the family? He certainly seems to think he is entitled to spend his time however he chooses and that it is perfectly reasonable that should have to do whatever it takes for him to get his own way! I honestly do not understand what he thinks I get out of this relationship... Sorry for essay!