Can anyone breakdown and identify the process which changes " Oh don't worry we'll work it out, I'll look after the kids

[suzywong]

if you have extra college classes, it will be cool, we'll manage it "

To:

"Well I suppose I'LL just have to come home early and look after them won't I?" [surly resentful lemon-lipped emoticon eminating tension and stress}

Discuss

no idea. Thats life I guess. No one can ever do right.

hmmmm...well from experience...they may say these things....carrying out to how you interprate them however is a whole other ball game.

grrr at the men who do this. Mine did this when I went back to work.....lasted 2yrs before he managed to 'encourage' me to quit...altho that said, I am less stressed now.

but then, you are wanting to improve yourself, and that in itself deserves respect and support.

ignore and rise above...and write out little reminders of what he agreed and stick around the house so he has to remember.

good luck, and count to ten!!!!

Id say, "oh good...and while youre here, Im off for a coffee/glass of wine with a friend, the kids pjs are in the bottom drawer, and make sure they brush their teeth..." (Must say, I am a single mum since 5 weeks preggers so have never had the luxury of "we'll manage it" and am a little bitter....

lol suzy ignore, ignore, ignore, he's just trying to make you feel sorry for him lol bout time he got lemon-lipped

Morning Suzy. Did you see the rain last night?

Remember when DD was a baby and DH would rush to do things like bath her now he always has an excuse why he can do it tonight. Then has the cheek to complain that he never spends any time with her. He does love to do things like go for a walk with her of take her to the park on the weekend. Have come to the conclusion that he only wants to do the fun things.

the first is the answer they know they are expected to give and the second is the reality that appears when it becomes a fact.

Ha!
Thanks for the resonses
It's VERY blowy here isn't it humpy?

To be fair to dh he has relented somewhat and we were both up a lot of the night with ds2 and his high temp.

Of course we can never say "well I suppose I"LL just have to stay at home with the kids until they go to school while you do your work thing"

Anyway, he's generally pretty good.

I don't listen, i say, ok dear, that would be marvellous and make other plans.

The person i am seeing ( i hate the word boyfriend i only use it out of neccessity) has said, i must enjoy my freshers week and he will have the boys in the evenings.

I know he means well, i know he would love that to happen in an ideal world but he doesn't actually think of the practicalities of things. He will be working. I appreciate the gesture and then find another solution.

of course it's not entirely the same though as he is my lover and anything he offers is sweet and not his responsibility

oh I had one of those moments

"If you got a part-time job it would help us"

'What about the kids, the household?@

"We'll all help"

yeah! course you will!