Bit annoyed although im trying in person not to show it, and trying to take it with a pinch of salt but getting increasingly fed up of comments of a certain ex of DHs. Im kind of guessing the sort of comments that ill get after reading similar posts in the past online but i just need a major rant.
It is a bit complicated ive been with DH 8 years since we were 21 i didnt know him in his teenage years but he went out with a girl for a couple of years from 16-18 think it was, they split up after she cheated on him with his friend. After a while they made up and the friend was seeing the ex (i dont think id of made friends with him anyway).
So a few months after i had been with DH it turned out a couple months before i met him he had slept with her behind his friends back. There was obviously a big fall out and we spilt up for a while more out of embarrasment on my part really im not botherd what he got upto generally in his past but i just felt like i was out of the loop kind of thing and having him telling me how upset he was over them cheating on him im surprised, i had mentioned on occasions that i thought she had some sort of crush on DH and he just shrugged it off. I also was worried he might have feelings for her i mean why would you sleep with an ex if thers no feelings there unless it was for revenge.. All this was spoke about to DH and he reassured me he was drunk and he regretted it straight away bla bla bla.
Obviously we did get back together and his friend and the ex stayed together and moved away and started a family never really heard from them for years but couple years ago the friend moved back and they had split up apparently she had cheated on him (what a surprise) dh and him made up again and have been friens since although wouldnt say best friends or anything more assosiates since they have mutual friends. At christmas the friend went to stay with her and kids and they got back together this is dispite him having a lovely girlfriend who as heartbroken by all accounts. Now hes sorted her an house out a couple of streets away from us and are moving in during half term, likely hood the kids will be going same school as my kids. I know im sounding really petty but i cannot stand this woman i never liked her to start with as much as i tried been friendly with her years ago she was always making digs such as my dh cannot keep relationships and she had been his longest relationship etc etc i just felt really intimidated by her at times this was 8 years ago and i did tell dh at the time who in fairness distances us from the a little until it came out about him sleeping with her and we never had anything to do with them at all.
So last week they had been to look at this house and they called in on us, first time in nearly 8 years dh had any contact with her and she was trying to all sweetness and light then said to me i cant believe you 2 are still together maybe she was been nice and i took it wrong way but it was way she said it then she was trying to make small talk with DH who tbh looked like he wanted to go hide. Ive told him i dont want her at our house thers no need for it and i dont know why either the friend or his gf would want to. DH agrees and said he will make no contact with them but its going to be so hard with them so close. I mean i dont want to come across as been jealous and bitter thers just something about her ive never liked, ive seen his other exs and i havent any problems with although they arent acting like they want to be best friends.
I just think the whole situation is weird why they want to socialise is beyond me