What do you normally get on your annivesary?

[Northerner]

Tomorrow dh and I have been married 8 yrs. I know he hasn't got me a card yet and as he's working today he'll have to buy it tommorrow so I won't get it till evening. This pisses me off slighlty. He is always leaving things till the day before to buy them and ends up buying something from ASDA with no thought at all.

Now, he could make up for the no card on the morning of our anniversary by a cup of tea/breakfst in bed but he won't cause he never has. If I bring this up he does not see that he is thoughtless he thinks I'm being 'divaish'

Grrrrr.

To get anything or give anything that would require either me or DH to remember the thing. We've been married 11 years. Yes we did forget the 10 year one as well. Remembered the next day!!!

Last anniversery I got a vile grumpy husband!!

Seriously, men can be useless with things like this. I would normally get a card, but that was it, no special treatment of any kind!
My sister on the other hand, has a DH who keeps track of whether it is the paper year or the leather year etc, & really spoils her. This year was their third anniversery & he knew it was the year of leather, so he bought her a Gucci handbag & took her for a posh meal in London.
Not that I am at all!

Blimey, he sounds a bit spec no?

meant special, finger misfunction

We don't buy presents for each other - don't often do cards anymore. Have made them for each other previously when we were really skint (year 2 I think!) and treasure them but a happy marriage is all that matters not a Gucci handbag or a card even. Sounds a bit smug I suppose, don't mean it to but I don't see the point of stressing that he didn't buy you a card. He's out working, you're happy right? That's all that matters.

my DH is the same He popped out on my b'day to get a card. Prob. get a card on anniversary, written on the car steering wheel so all wonky.

Yes, he always goes out of his way to spoil my sister. She also got 3 cards because they had been married 3 years.
She had her birthday last Wednesday & got smoked salmon & champagne taken up to her for breakfast!

My husband pushes the boat out xmas and birthdays. He does make you feel really good those days but for us valentines day and anniversaries are unimportant. Horses for courses, I think.

Yes kbear I know what you are saying, and yes, we are happy really. I just can't help feeling put out at his lack of effort, I read it as being thoughtless. If you love someone you should make an effort I think. I'm not talking gucci handbag and smoked salmon, a cup of tea and croissant would make me so happy, it doesn'y ahve to be a grand gesture.

My husband never pushes the boat out.

Does he expect it for himself?

No, to be fair he doesn't

I can't forget, as Dh remembers AND it is his birthday the same day.

I make the card obviously (though I don't like making him cards, don't know why- just seems a bit home made) and then he gets something else too, varies- may be a meal out, or wine.

My dh is good with birthdays and so am I but we don't bother with the others. I was thinking the other day after a similar thread that I can't even remember when my wedding anniversary is

dh did exactly the same thing except it was my birthday, went and bought gifts from Asda on the way home from work i think, it came back to haunt him in an argument we had a few days later

Our anniversary is in a week so will be interesting to see what happens, i'm a SAHM so i'll be feeling crap about not being able to splash out on him tho

my dh is exactly the same ! I have to drop massive hints for Christmas and birthdays too. Presents are also bought on the day itself or left to the last minute. Apparently according to him - he doesn't view receiving cards as importantly as I do - he says its just a card and can't understand the fuss. He's exactly the same though with his parents and siblings too. Even when my children were born he arrived at the hospital with nadda. Drives me mad

Well I take it all back. Tonight he hsa put my card on the mantel piece and given me a new CD

Ah

We're one of the soppy lot. Always remember it and always do it around the theme of the year. This one was lace - bit hard for me but dh was really good with his present.

We don't do Valentine's or wedding anniversaries, except to say 'happy V's day' or 'happy anniversary'. Don't think gifts are necessary tbh

some years dh makes a special card and others he just buys one from the shop - he's hardly ever late though.
I always get him a present (like a cd) but never make him a card so I always look like I've tried less.

Card, more bl**dy knickers (I prefer white cotton boring ones and he doesn't IKSWIM) and we usually go out for a meal (I pay). So he doesn't forget although I did once - ended up buying him a card and some whisky from Sainsbury - it was 8yr old malt for an 8th anniversary though.

All i've ever wanted was a big bunch of flowers but he doesn't do that anymore - don't know why.

Card, more bl**dy knickers (I prefer white cotton boring ones and he doesn't IKSWIM) and we usually go out for a meal (I pay). So he doesn't forget although I did once - ended up buying him a card and some whisky from Sainsbury - it was 8yr old malt for an 8th anniversary though.

All i've ever wanted was a big bunch of flowers but he doesn't do that anymore - don't know why.

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oh well..