I think my dp has a crush

[InnocentBystander]

on a man he works with.

I am incognito here tonight, he has gone out with this man, usually he is reading over my shoulder.

I have always wondered if perhaps dp swings both ways, I have just found out this bloke does, and..

well, it's just a hunch. His tone of voice on the phone. It's odd, but I can't ask him out right.

I don't have a question, really, I just wanted to air my opinions.

I'm not a troll, btw, am a regular who is hiding

are you sure its a man hes gone out with then?

Hmmm, and do you think he will get up to anything on his night out?

yes, I know it is, I know the bloke.

I don't think he will do anything, am pretty sure actually, but it's just strange how you can live with someone for years, then suddenly it's as if someone has drawn a curtqain open and you can see the bigger picture, IYSWIM.

He has made a real effort tonight to look nice. And for the last few months it has been "X this, X that" all the time.

I don't mind, actually, it's just a bit strange to observe in your partner!

My friend has the same suspicions.... you're not her are you??

I don't think so, I haven't voiced this to anyone irl.

his voice goes kind of 'soft' when he's one the phone to this bloke though. It's so odd. I mind a hell of a lot less than if it was a woman.

I dont see why you mind LESS just cos its a man?

if you think he is making an effort for a "date" isnt that a threat to you?

He's never ever cheated before, and he has had plenty of opportunity to.

I don't know why I don't fel threatened, I just don't. I think if he is going to cheat on me, he will, whether I suspect him or not.

If that makes any sense to you at all!

IBS I know exactly what you mean about minding LEss than if it was a woman.
I had this discussion recently with some girlfriends .
Hope you are wrong and it is innocent!

IBS does he have a lot of close male friends, if not then maybe he's just chuffed that he's found a bloke mate? Have you been around them both? Did you noticed anything?

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How do tyou know he hasnt cheated, i dont believe you ever know. MY ex always maintained that he would never cheat and he hated cheaters but he was one. I dont believe when someone says he has had plenty of opportunities but hasnt taken them!!