DH has messed up job

[micegg]

I just need to rant. My DH has just found a great job with really god pay.Its good news for us as we are in alot of debt and I could only see this getting worse. However the company have withdrawn their offer of the job because my DH lied about his current salary and they have found out. The problem is he is working his notice at his current job. He seems to be in no hurry to talk to his current job to see if he can stay - i think he fears losing face. I am really stressing as we cant afford for him to be out of work. There is more to this re: DHs spending habits and lack of responsibility around finances. I really hoped this job would solve our money probelms now we are in one big hole.

I appreciate anyone just reading this. I realise compared to many problems on here its not a massive issue but I cant talk to anyone about this as DH has asked me not too.

Rant over.

Micegg - It must have been some lie! I ALWAYS add an extra £20 a day onto my rate when I'm applying..... play the game and all that.

I feel for you. My soon-to-be Ex was totally irresponsible. Still is.

i think it is a massive issue and you have every right to rave... as much as you love em sometimes men can be ridiculously irresponsible!
hope it gets sorted!

oh you poor thing. don't really have any advice but you have my sympathy. has your DH begged the new company to forgive him? i'd try that as he's got no face to lose there....

Its wasnt that bad in terms of the lie. Its just that the industry he is in is quite uptight and formal and its seen as a trust issue. He probably should have figured that one out before he went for the interview but I think he was caught on the hop. I am trying not to be angry with him. But I am. Its not helped by the fact that he is currently out and therefore spending more money. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

aitch71. Yes he has sent the new company a grovelling e-mail but they have not responded today which cant be a good sign. I will just have to concentrate on getting him to sort the current job out. If thats a no no then, well I will worr about that later. What gets me is that when he told me what he had said in interview I immediatley said "but what if they find out, blah blah". And he started saying how would they, etc. Just so stupid. To be fair it was his first interview in 10 years so I know hw was very nervous. He is still a prat though.

Cant he say he thought it was before tax or something? made a mistake?

I interview people all the time and always assume they add at least 5K to their current yearly salary. He is hardly the first person to lie. It's just part of the nogotiations process as far as I am concerned. I am suprised they have withdrawn job offer.

you poor thing - i am sure we have all done similar....
i think you and him should talk about spending ....it is obviously stresssing you and i am sure he would not want that.
has he applied for more jobs?

I can see why this is annoying and worrying for you, especially when you had so much pinned on this job. I would have thought that they would accept that most people would exaggerate a bit, like FairyMum says. Hopefully it will work out.

Fairymum - It is ridiculous. If it were my type of job they wouldnt care or more to the point they wouldnt check your last salary to see if you lied. I find that quite strange.

You are probably right about taking about spending. These things happen for a reason and maybe its just to make us talk. I find it really hard to talk to him about money. He just sticks his head in the sand. I find I end up organising all the finances and then get accused of taking over. If I try and get him to do his bit it just wont get done.