verbal abuse.....

[miku]

what do I do with ex who consistently calls me names, puts me down, says he doesn't want DD to be same ignoramus as me, etc?

I have withdrawn contact, and then finally put up some boundaries, but last week ( after 6 months) allowed my DD to stay over, and by the second day, she was in tears again. He was belittling her studying, saying her level is that of 3 years younger than she is.
Ive totally had enough.

Do I stop contact again??

If it was my child, I would be totally stopping those stay overs.

Can you arrange contact in a place where he's not going to be able to belittle her?

Yes of course. Why let her be abused?

you know what, its that I wasn't sure if it WAS abuse....Ive put up with it cos im not great with my temper either, and it just escalates.( Its usually by phone or text lately- I don't want to talk to him where possible!)
But this last time........he says he doesn't say stuff to her, but she says he does. Actually I have just told him that she cant stay over tonight.And Ive told him if he cant have some respect then that's it until he can control himself.