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At last, its over!

13 replies

catkin14 · 05/02/2014 19:00

After nearly a year of hell battling to get finances agreed, I am at last divorced and finances settled.
The feeling of relief is intense, in fact I feel a couple of inches taller due to the weight being lifted off my shoulders!

Thanks to all on here that helped me along the way, it was all appreciated.

My promise to myself is that I am never getting married again, I will never go through all that again.
And at 50 I really cant see the point of marriage, at least for me with grownup DC's.
But for now life can move on and thats enough.

To all of you at the beginning of this journey, good luck, you can do it, stay strong and true to what you feel to be right. Its tough I know but life is too short to live a lie.

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Amicus1966 · 05/02/2014 19:02

Well done for coming through.
You need to celebrate.
I am just starting my divorce hell so hope to be in your position soon.

shootfromthehip · 05/02/2014 19:08

Another one just starting the journey so it's lovely to hear that it's all finally over for you. I wish you all the best on the next bit of your life (and totally concur re the never getting married again sentiment... unless he's really good looking )

Amicus1966 · 05/02/2014 19:12

I said I'd never get married again and I did.
Am now on my second divorce:(

Pippinlongsocks · 05/02/2014 19:24

Congrats Catkin14.... I share your joy at the same age too having made the same big decision to escape living a lie. The feeling of freedom/liberation only gets better I have to say. Well done for remaining strong. You've got lots to look forward to now!

Wishyouwould · 05/02/2014 19:25

Well done catkin I've namechanged but I remember your posts well.

I'm on a very rocky and emotionally draining journey but I know I'll get to the end one day soon

yellowismyfave · 05/02/2014 19:29

Well done and congrats! Enjoy your new life :)

akawisey · 05/02/2014 20:43

It's a wonderful feeling isn't it?

myroomisatip · 05/02/2014 20:55

:) Well done!

You can have the bed all to yourself, breakfast in bed if you want, watch whatever you like on the t.v. cry your eyes out at sad films without being criticised, eat as much chocolate as you want, ah the list is endless....

sus14 · 05/02/2014 20:56

Congrats from me too and thanks for posting- 2 1/2 weeks out of a bad relationship it's good to know its going to be onwards and upwards :-)

maparole · 05/02/2014 21:01

KouignAmann · 05/02/2014 21:03

Congratulations! I'm a month ahead of you and just as happy to move on. Enjoy the moment!

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catkin14 · 05/02/2014 22:28

Thank you all.
I love the freedom, at first I wondered how I would ever get used to it, questioned what I had done for many months and the guilt was incredible.
But I did get through it.
And Im never going to do that again.
On friday I get keys to my house that I have bought for my DS and me, and we will be happy!
And as emotions werent allowed in the last life, happy is what we will be!

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feelingvunerable · 05/02/2014 22:56

Good luck catkin thanks for posting as I too am on that road.
So glad to hear it was the right decision.

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