My husband came back from a work trip away, with a group of colleagues. This was a 'fun' work trip for a sporting activity, not a business trip or an official team bonding. But it was organised through the means of the workplace.
I encouraged him to go away and have fun on the trip. I also looked after our 4 year old for the duration and spent a rather long weekend with no adult company between Thursday morning and Monday night - had tried to arrange a meet up with another mum and it fell through. We have recently moved to a new area so my socialising options are pretty limited.
He began to show me some photos from the trip, flicking quickly past one with him in a cheeks-pressed-together pose with a woman, which I joked about a little bit, then he abruptly cut off and began trying to look at another webpage. My suspicions were a bit raised, so when he was looking for something else in the room, i opened up the folder and found another photo which seemed a bit too-close-for-comfort, albeit with another girl. I said 'hey, that's a bit of an inappropriate photo' and said that I had noticed that he seemed a bit reluctant to show me the rest.
He became really angry, said that I was a prude, that he hadn't shown me the photos because he 'knew how I would react' and went off. I tried to talk to him about it later, said that I just found the photos a bit off, but said that if he had apologised that it had all got a bit carrried away and lairy then I would not have minded. I also reminded him that it was a sort-of work trip, that he had a management role, was actually organising the trip and was also known to be married. Again he said that I was a prude, that I too should find a group of people to 'have fun' with, repeated the thing about 'knowing how i would react' and went off to sleep in the other room. The photos folder has now disappeared from the PC.
Are my boundaries really so totally out of touch?