Hi all. I work every day school hours and DH works full-time and sometimes away in UK. We have 3 and 9 year olds. Today I was finishing late due to training which has been booked for ages. DH had written letter to school about ds's behaviour so it was arranged he would go to a meeting with ds's school at 3.30 pick DS up after his library club then pick up DD. He was working in Cardiff last night we are in Portsmouth so he would be back in time as he starts early. Anyway he wasn't back due to traffic but didn't let me know que phone call at 4.15 from school saying DS is waiting to be picked up. I reply its ok DH is at school with teacher no he didn't turn up for that either is the reply!!! DH says he did let school know and it was crossed wires. I come home he takes no responsibility blames school. I say why didn't you let me know you were running late I would have left training and gone to meeting at school and picked up kids!!! He says he was trying to give me space (I do ask for this as often when I am at asdas etc he will text me letting me know ds is playing up wondering when I coming home etc? ) He is trying to get it right but does seem to constantly get it wrong. I feel whenever I go anywhere he is nagging me to come home and makes me feel uilty for being out. I cam home last Fri to both kids in rain waiting as ds had a club at 6pm. I had text at 5.20 to say I was at till in asda meaning I would be back in time so need to drag 3 year old in rain!!!! I just feel he does not cope with kids well and that is placing enormous strain on me. I rarely go anywhere on my own for fun weight watchers and asda are the main places I go on my own!!!! I feel suffocated and like I am carrying a lame duck if I am honest :( Any thoughts??