views on facetiming kids please

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dh moved out 10 days ago so appreciate its still early days but would just like some views on this please
DCs twins age 12 - have about 3 -3.5 hrs at home in evening before bed - 1st two hours are tea & any homework & then relaxing for last hour. DH has been facetiming kids during this last hr to talk about their day etc and so although not physically here is still here. Kids spent Friday night & all day Saturday with him & so he is seeing them & they will be with him 2 nights this weekend. I deliberately kept my chat with them short as felt it was "his time". Finding this quite difficult to deal with as if we are all in the same room when he rings he is still there with us. Views welcome thanks

It's early days. I am sure it will tail off naturally over the coming weeks. I'd just bear with it and let it go for the time being tbh.

Ah bloody FaceTime and kids! Bringing people into our homes that we don't want there! Have similar problem here and it's very uncomfortable. It is early days though and they are possibly just missing their dad. It may well fizzle out but in the meantime you probably need to be supportive of them at what must be a strange and difficult time. If it doesn't fizzle out why not set a time for him to FaceTime, perhaps 15 mins before bed so he can say god night then hopefully he will respect their bed time?

Is he face timing them on their own phones? I can see why you feel uncomfortable but it's good he is keeping in touch, if I only saw my kids weekends i would want to talk to them in the week too.

I expect that they miss each other, I think it's great that they have contact on a daily basis.

If you're sitting eating tea with them then you have that time to chat then.

ok thanks will try & bear with it -yes its on their phones but we are often all in the same room - so im fine all day & then find myself getting really anxious during that time -its also frustrating that when he was here he would normally be in his office & suddenly he is now "super dad"

Perhaps it's one of the times that dad is actually more involved after the split, which can only be a positive for your children.

This is an important tool of contact for parents and other relatives. However my dc and I have a simple rule for this as it can be invasive given that it is a video chat. When exh facetimes dc, they simply will go into another quieter room, any one that I am not in. It's just being respectful, after all I could be ironing in my pants in front of the tv or maybe I just don't want to hear exh's voice or details of their whole conversation.

No personal experiance but I would give a set time for the call 45 minutes and I would be in a different room doing my own thing for that time.

Its the right thing for the kids you need to manage your own time away better maybe? Start a hobby or read a book have downtime? Use it to your advantage when he is talking to the kids