How often do you have sex

[lotti37]

Just curious how often people have sex. Been in relationship for long time. Thanks

4-5 times a week, married for 6 yrs been together for 8.

Since DD was born (she is now ten months) once. I don't know where to start I just feel like a mum now I don't feel sexual at all. I love my DH very much and find him attractive but every time he tries to bring the subject up I walk off or change the subject. Don't know how to get out of it.

Bornagain what do you see happening then if you continue to not have sex?

iheartshoes you could be me.

I don't know how to get out of this situation either. If you could buy sexdrive in a bottle, I would!

Last time was over 4 months ago.

I prefer a or .

iheartshoes I don't know if I should say this but as you say you really love your DH - here goes- The more you do it the more you want it!! I found that if I did it a few times when I didn't think I wanted to then I soon got the feelings back Not suggesting that people do it under pressure but just that sometimes its better when you've started!!!!

Together ten years, married for 7, DS 6 yes old, DD 8 months old. Between 2 and 5 times a week.

Depends on our shifts. We are newly married so a fair amount. But whilst ttc. I nearly killed him with every night for a week and sometimes twice... Not bragging. My hoo ha feels numb now and it's not a week for walking normally!!

Haven't had sex since April 2009! Gulp!

With my DDs father it was sometimes everyday or at least once a week.

I'm in my early 30s...I so need to get laid

Never. It's an issue.

2-3 times a month currently but EBF 14wo DD and have a toddler too so struggle to find a time when I'm not knackered & both DC are asleep. Definitely not enough for DH. Before DC we were both happy with 2-3 times a week and daily when on holiday, can't see us (me) getting back to that for sometime though

I'm single and about once a week. I do have a 'friendly regular' though. This wouldn't be happening without him.

once a week. we have been together 20 years. both 44. I would like more sex but don't have the confidence to push the issue.

Found this interesting as dh is no longer interested, but will do it for me to keep me happy as I'm not ready to be in a sexless marriage. Lucky me! He asked me to give a 'figure' which I felt reasonable so I suggested twice a week. Annoying thing is when he does it, he says oh actually I enjoyed that, we should do it more, but soon slips back.... I never pressure him tho I do instigate to see if he's interested. I'm not ready to give it up even tho our circumstances aren't great...

too knackered usually

So do you think if sex was really lacking, like in my case once every few months, (hoping its just because recent problems that we're getting through). But would it mean that it wasn't a good relationship?

Almost daily. And sometimes twice. VERY occasionally we've gone three times. But I'd say daily with odd days off.

We've been together 20 months, engaged and marrying this summer so I'm presuming it will slow down eventually =( (I like this level of sex, daily suits me haha!)

What do you count as sex?
Penetrative sex only once every 3 months maybe.
Oral, mutual masturbation and toys we do about every 2 weeks on average.
We have been together nearly 8 years. I have health problems so feel tired a lot. I also have vulvodynia so am in pain a lot.

Not enough.

Can't even remember the last time think it might have got to the point where it would be very awkward if I initiated anything.

Gosh Im amazed that on average it seems posters are doing it 2/3 times a week! I feel awful, as my DH and I only do it every couple of months! Yes months. Sometimes if we're feeling really horny then it'll be a couple of times a month! We've been married for 10 years. We have 2 DC, age 6 and 2, they drain the life out of us…all we want to do is sleep! But on top of that DH has this need to go out for a cigarette just before bedtime, every night (which I am extremely annoyed about as I hate smoke), but he returns 30 mins later, in which time I've dosed off! Any advice anyone?

Further to my previous post….I feel really bad, I feel I need to keep up…

Hmm, at least twice a week maybe up to 5 times if we're feeling v frisky. We're together 9y this year, 2 kids.

Don't feel bad justbreath, it isn't a competition! As for suggestions, tell him to wake you up ;), sleepy sex works for me!

I completely agree with morning sex btw. Much prefer it to bedtime sex, I'm usually far too exhausted, but a quickie in the morning and I have to get up. Set the alarm 15 mins earlier?

I'm single but has been once a week for the past 9 months with a 'friend'. Suits me as I don't want a relationship and I'm usually too shattered to do anything once the DC are in bed.

Before that it was once in 4 years - could not do that again - I'm only 28!

BlodynRose, not much I can do as I can't break my family up.If I left or cheated I would be the one with total blame so its a case of sticking with it.
Cant deny the idea of sex with stranger has not crossed my mind.I think a life without it is hard to contemplate.
I adore my wife and lust after her so I guess I can just torture myself thinking about it. If men think about sex a hundred times a day, men that don't get any think about it ten times more.