Someone [a 'friend] said:
they couldn't go on holiday with me as they had problems sleeping and had limited annual leave....then went to a music festival and a holiday abroad with parents [parents paying] every year...
and said I was in the way when I went into her kitchen....then said I didn't help out enough with food preparation/cooking for tea...
and said I didn't come forward with suggestions for things to do at the weekends....but I did, she just didn't fancy doing what I suggested...
and said why didn't I come up to see her weekday evenings [saying I didn't care how she was]...then if I did she was snappy because she'd been at work and was tired...
and said I didn't ever offer to cook a meal for her....[no I gave up in the end] yet when I told her what food I had in and would she like to stay for tea, she didn't fancy what I had....
and said repeatedly when I asked if anything was wrong [her moods/scoffing/criticisms of me were accelerating] that everything was fine, nothing wrong...it was me, I was paranoid...
How do you define this behaviour/mixed messages? What's going on? Why do people act like this? I know my brain has been mashed and that she is a confused and unhappy person....
I do not see this person any more [cant take any more of it] but need to process what has happened, understand it and get counselling so I never, ever get involved with someone like this again.
Any input/ observations, any definitions would be welcome as I would like some clarity. Thanks.