I've posted on here before about my H, who has been emotionally, verbally and psychologically abusive. I thought I could manage living in the same house with him, mediation, etc. for the sake of our two boys but, as predicted by many of you, I was dead wrong. 2 weeks ago he threw a heavy toy and hit me in the face, leaving a bump on my forehead. He was arrested but the charges were dropped. He is now out of the house which is a huge relief. My question is about how to deal with contact regarding logistics for our dss. I stupidly have allowed him do pick up and drop off at the house (with friend as intermediary and me hiding in another room). The contact via lawyers and friend has turned into direct contact via text and email. Last night he rang to talk to dss. I sent a text saying they weren't available. He texted back asking when they would be, I said i didn't know, maybe 7, and I would text when they could talk. At 7 he rang but the boys weren't ready so I killed it. He rang back immediately 2 further times until I texted him and said they would call when they were free. When I got home that night there was a email from him telling me how disappointed he was that we couldn't tell the boys about our split together, that he'd told them himself (I'd already spoken to them, of course) and went on at length about what he'd told them. I haven't responded, but I don't want to receive these emails. I feel he maneuvers me into a position where if I don't engage I look like I'm not acting in the best interests of the children. I've raised it with my lawyer but could use some practical advice. Any contact at all makes me stressed and anxious.