My stbxh called me up today after 3 weeks of silence to arrange to see the children. He wants me to take them into the town centre after school tomorrow to which I said no as I haven't got the money to get a bus, but I did offer for him to come to our house to see them. He apparently can't afford to do that, and so has said he wil "maybe see them next week".
He says that somebody told him (but won't say who) that I have replaced him with the children and am forcing them to call my new partner dad. I am not doing this, the children DO call him dad, but this has absolutely not been encouraged by me or dp- he children have decided themselves despite me calling him by his first name that he is their new dad. I think this is probably to do with their attachment to dp, he is nice to them when their dad was abusive.
I am at a loss- the children aren't interested in seeing their dad but I feel they are too young to make that decision (though to be fairly honest I would be delighted if he never saw them again after the way we were all treated) and I am not going to stop him from seeing them as is his right. But he barely bothers, it can be weeks between meetings and there is honestly no reason for him to not have the time- he works part time at night and could see them during the day and at weekends. I have told him repeatedly that he can see them every day if he wants, as long as I am not expected to take them to him all the time as I don't see why I should run around after him.
I am getting very frustrated, I have tried very hard to be civil wih him, but I am getting to the point that every time I speak to him I want to scream. How do I get past this? Any coping with arsehole strategies will be gratefully received! 