feel like I need to apologise to sil and mil but what to say

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Don't want to out myself so will try and be brief. I lost both my parents before giving birth to dd. They have anniversaries coming up too so I am feeling raw. Sil has just had a baby. The baby has two sets of grandparents and I did feel sad for my dd. However, I was the one who got the present and the card. I also dug out some of dd's grown out things to take along. We went to visit and everyone except me got a chance to hold little one. There was other visitors there and my elder dc wanted a turn so I let them go 1st. After spending about 20 minutes running after my toddler dh and mil were ready to leave. I didn't even have a chance to say goodby to sil. I did comment that I hadn't had a hold and mil and dh heard. He said I could go back but it wasn't really practical.

I later sent a conciliatory txt to sil but I haven't had a response.
Not sure where to go from here.

I feel that maybe I was rude and need to explain further but not sure how.

Just something like it was lovely to see you today. You looked great. Baby is cute etc. Sorry I didn't get a cuddle and say goodbye properly. Will have to have a cuddle next time.
Guess I am probably reading too much into her lack of response.

Her lack of response may be down to being busy. Or nowhere near her phone.

I can't see what you did wrong. You wanted to hold her baby which is a nice thing.

Try to forget about it. I'm betting she won't be over analysing it.

I don't think you have done anything wrong OP. Your text sounds perfect - Your SIL probably hasn't had time to answer it if she's just had a baby

I don't quite understand why you feel you need to apologise..

For not saying goodbye?
For showing you were annoyed about not having a chance to hold the baby?

Don't forget that she's probably really busy and that she can't read your mind so she may not know that you were feeling annoyed. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Sorry about your parents. no wonder you are feeling churned up

I think this is a non issue.

Sorry to hear about your loss, x

I think you probably were not in a good mood when you were there and now you feel bad because you think it showed. Not holding the baby would not be a give away. My baby is 6 months and nobody other than myself, my DH, my DM and my MIL has ever held her.

If her baby is very new she's probably not thinking about texts or getting her brain around answering them. You brought presents, you let your child have a go before yourself (quite rightly!) and you stopped your toddler driving everyone crazy - perfectly decent behaviour. If anyone does think you did/said/texted anything wrong it says more about them than it does about you to be honest.

Thank you for replies. The thing is I really wanted a hold but dh mil and dd1 got in 1st. Ds was feeling left out so I was keen for him to have a hold. Than toddler got restless and the time just disappearred. I think maybe I was grouchy whilst visiting because I felt overlooked and was sad my parents were not able to have seen my dd.
I guess I really shouldn't read anything into lack of reply.