H doesn't know but I'm planning to move out at Easter into a house share because that is the only affordable option. Am staying within walking distance so will be on hand to be involved with the dcs etc.
I'm thinking of paying the CSA rate maintenance, childcare fees (minimal as of April) and towards the dc activities. I will have to run the car and all expenses.
This may be temporary or permanent - I can't see H having an epiphany and deciding to resolve his own issues to give our relationship a chance, the last 4 years have been awful for me and I've spent the last 2 years telling him I cannot live with the current situation.
Anyhow with me paying the above it will mean that each person - adult & child will have the same "income" per month to cover food, clothes etc.
Does that sound fair?
It's hard because we will all be worse off, there is no spare room for me to move in. We couldn't afford to sell the house and buy a smaller property each either so this could end up being a long term arrangement 