Advice after speaking to the DH please

[Sammy321]

I have spoke to my husband as he seems to be watching porn on a daily basis and just the other day he did it while I was asleep on the sofa, when I spoke to him about this he said he was unsure why he watched it and thinks he watches it when he's board he said he only watches it for a short time n doesn't watch the full film usually . He also said he doesn't masturbate while watching it but sometimes will if I'm not there (which I don't mind odd time) I don't know if I should believe him "watching it cos I'm board" I can't seem to get my head round it when he's bored it's not like watching tv is it? Anyway he's told me he's going to stop watching it and so far he's done 2 days...I don't know if it's an addiction with him watching it like it's a tv program n wondering if this is the end of the problem or is it a matter of time till the next time...advice please

He will not stop - just hide better. A lot of people see nothing wrong with porn...

He was watching it on his phone and I think I've got every possibility covered on checking his history website data etc but only time will tell I suppose

He'll clear his history

Probably just as well if you're going to check it.

I don't think there's much you can do. If he wants to watch it, he'll watch it, and it's easily accessible. The only thing I can suggest is signing up to whichever internet providers will block the content. But do you really want to baby your partner, that's the thing?

'Doesn't watch the full film'

You aren't supposed to watch the full film! It's not a scripted masterpiece.

If he is bored, perhaps you can find him a list of chores that need doing.

Don't be fooled by the amount of people who mention porn addiction. There's a big difference between porn addiction and frequently watching porn because what he wants is more important than what you need.

Did you ask him to stop watching it then? If you made it clear it was a boundary that you didn't want crossed have you any reason to disbelieve him when he says he has stopped?

For what it's worth, I stopped watching porn when I found out a bit more about the industry. It wasn't a problem for me. I still read erotic literature (porn in writing basically), but if my partner wanted me to stop, I'd stop.

For most people who use porn it can be a "take it or leave it" type of thing I think.

I've not told him to stop just not do it when I'm here he works away a lot and I work one night a week I've told him to leave it till then it was his choice to say he will not watch it all. Since the original post he's told me the real reason he was watching it was he's read somewhere that watching it will make him last longer... Explains the bit about not masterbating while watching it . I've also told him I don't care how long he lasts since the conversation fri were back in our honeymoon period let's hope it lasts

I'm glad things are loking more positive for you Sammy.