No cuddles and contact, feeling unloved

[FeelingUnlovedtonight]

We have been married 13 years and have two beautiful children 6 and 10. We have a nice home and my DH and I get on well and enjoy each other's company.

Since having the children I do feel a bit frumpy and overweight, but try and make an effort. DH has never been overly touchy feely, but used to give cuddles, hold hands and always kissed me goodbye, our sex life was a bit sporadic, but OK, I know he always would have liked more, rather like when we met, but with two kids and my job.....

In the last year or so. DH has stopped cuddling and being loving with me, I know he cares, from the things he does, but the only time he touches me now, is when he wants sex and it really puts me off. I have tried telling him this and he says I am being silly, he still fancies me and that is good at my age (43).

It's got to,the stage now, that when he touches me in bed, I know it is for sex and I am evasive, which makes it worse. I also know he has looked at porn on line few times, he didn't deny it, but this makes it feel worse too.

I don't know what do to, as when I try and talk about it, he just dismisses it.

WWYD?

So sorry to hear that you are going through this :-( have a couple of ideas you could try ... The next time you a both in the kitchen or lounge and the music on the radio plays a catchy tune - grab him to have a dance !He might be flattered that you felt compelled to dance with him! Also if you 'clean /treat' all the other seats in the lounge so you have to spend the evening cuddled up together on the sofa - under a throw ! And when the little ones have gone to bed You could always surprise him under the covers, right there on the sofa !!! He just needs a reminder that you can still be fun and impetus and sexy out of the bedroom by the sound of it - this should certainly make him notice !!!!