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I just want my dh back!

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BoozyBoots · 02/02/2014 00:35

He is suffering from depression, as well as low testosterone. He is tired, emotionally numb, and lost in his life. I'm heart broken watching him fall apart. I support him all i can, to the best of my abilities but i can't help feeling truly selfish! I just want the man i know and love back.

Low testosterone is being investigated with hospital. He has no sex drive, no lustful thoughts, doesn't wank etc. We have sex but i only feel this is to pacify me as i feel so rejected by him. I know the depression is not his fault, but i can't help but miss him, the real him.

I have an autistic daughter so looking after the 2 of them is quite draining. I will stick by him no matter what, but tonight am feeling sorry for myself. It feels like my life is on hold. I'm drained. He's a gorgeous, loving person but he is so wrapped up in himself i feel like i'm on my own. We're having couples counselling, but i don't think he gets it. He is always telling me he loves me & how i shouldn't have to look after him like a child.

Not expecting any replies, just needing to vent after a difficult day & a few glasses of wine!

OP posts:
May09Bump · 02/02/2014 00:53

It must be sole destroying to watch - my DH had a minor bump in the road, and that was hard enough to go through.

You sound like a lovely family. Hold each other lots, cuddles can do the world of good. If you can manage it family walks, also rope in family if you can to give yourself a break. Try and get some early nightss sleep (says someone who's NY resolution was bed by 10) - you feel better for it.

Hopefully there is a treatable medical explanation for it and it improves in time. He is the man you love - just lost in the fog atm.

Didn't want to read and run, hope you don't find some of the above suggestions flippant - just some things that have made me feel better in the past.

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