Lost all faith in human nature

[PPaka]

Can I get it back, with counselling maybe?
Or just time?
H cheated, lied
Lied about everything for 10 years
I don't know how anyone is capable of doing/saying these things

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling so much.

Your H treated you appallingly but it was his weakness and his failings as a kind, warm human being.

When I found out about my H's affair, I thought I would never smile again but I do smile.

It's the kindness of others that helps you get through. Do you have good friends, family (sorry, I can't remember all of your previous thread).

People are kind and caring and not all are after their own selfishness.

If you feel counselling will help then try it. You need to find what works for you and you can take time doing that.

For me, it's friends, family and planning my future but I know how much it hurts and seeps into your thoughts.

I can smile. Ds and I are having fun.
And I know we'll be happier, I already am
My friends and family have all rallied round, but tbh I just want to be left alone now, to get on with it
I don't want to talk about him, I've wasted too much of my life on him already

I'm just dumbfounded by the things he's done and its kinda tainted everything
Men, sex, love
Just cannot imagine ever trusting anyone ever again
And not just men, I don't trust anyone to tell me the truth, I'm suspecting everyone's motives

I understand where you are coming from. I often feel that it is only my DS that will never let me down.

It's okay to keep your guard up but I draw comfort from the fact that so many women on here do trust and love again and end up much happier.

I refuse to let my H's actions taint my future.

Don't lose faith in most of the human race. Sadly arses like him exist, that's why a lot of us are on here.

Time to get YOUR life back in order, you can do it

give it time ...

the people you can trust are the ones who are always there for you in good times and bad. The ones who, without making a fuss about it, will turn something down that's in their own interest because it will hurt or damage other people.

Watch the long term effect of a person on the people around them, from the acquaintances to their nearest and dearest.

There are truly good people out there and there are also a lot who try hard, make mistakes but just do their best. They are there, I promise. After you've seen the really appalling shit some people do, it's hard to believe but it's true.

and i hope this doesnt sound bad, but once you've been betrayed to the core, it's possible to be a lot more observant of people and judicious about who you trust and who you don't.