Help me get through today

[therewearethen]

Can't be arsed to NC have posted under different names before tho.

ExP moved out in Sep, on and off would probably sum things up best, I've been in 2 minds if we should get back together or not.

Today is DD2 (the child he asked for) 1st birthday. He went on a night out last night, I've heard nothing, no text nothing. God only knows when and if he'll show up. I'm so upset, I know I mean little to him but I always thought he adored his DDs.

Not really sure why I posted, I think I just need some company to stop myself breaking my heart in front of the DC

That's a shitty thing for him to do op

But at least she is too young to be aware

Kepek I don't know, I would class us as together but not living together but we've not discussed us. I briefly mentioned what we should do a few weeks back and he said it's my decision. I change my mind hourly what I should do but today has opened my eyes. He doesn't care about us does he?

Tbh honest op he doesn't sound like he wants to be with you
But it's not fair to be inconsistent with the dc
Sounds like you need to talk

Still nothing, AIBU if I go out?

No, of course YWBU to go out.

There isn't a single reason why you should sit in your house all day on the off-chance this fucker decides to show up.

What does dd like doing? It's still her birthday - go and do something you both enjoy and sod him.

The situation sounds awful; so does he tbh.

You'd prob feel better after a while on your own

Get something nice for tea. Get through an hour at a time. Plan little treats

Don't get tied up with his foolishness, focus on you & dc's

Well he turned up unannounced around 4pm looking like shit. I couldn't help myself and told him (in front of DD1) that DD2 birthday was almost over and he'd missed it, without even texting or ringing her. I told him he had 10mins as they were going to DM which he was well aware of as I thought we could go and do something as babysitting is quite rare.

I hadn't mentioned him at all, all day to DC but obviously DD1 heard what I said to him and then started saying he should have come earlier, he's missed singing happy birthday, and won't have time to play with DD2 etc.

I was wrong to say something in front of her I just couldn't help myself there was no raised voices or swearing if that makes it any better.

So DC have gone to their Nan's, I'm at home with wine trying to figure out where I went wrong. Thanks to those still reading.

you didn't go wrong. He's just a bit crap at adult relationships. Not your fault

A bit crap at relationships? Hes a prize cunt and you are better off without him.

Only just read your op. Sounds like u need company with that wine so here I am . I've pulled up a chair and made myself comfy. Sounds like you really love this guy and want to make it work eh? You must be feeling shitty right now - where is he now?

LEM you made me smile, briefly. He's gone home as far as I'm aware, although he maybe back out on the piss. He's all I've ever known, I met him at 17

Can't be easy to just give him up if you have been with him from such a young age. I know, I've been there but no kids with my ex. What happened to cause you to split in the first place?

@ LEM

I was being diplomatic

How old are you now, OP?

Soon to be 27. Latest break up was basically the last straw in a long line of things.

sorry didn't reply earlier

27 is very young. You won't always feel like this, things will change and get better