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I've been a shit mum today

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MissM · 31/01/2014 23:08

Been feeling really low all day after sharp words with husband in the morning, then rain rain and more rain, didn't get out for a run, couldn't settle to work. Just low. Then I lost it completely with my son (aged 6) this evening. It's the constant drip drip drip of whining: 'It's not fair, she's got more than me, she's got more of this, she's got more of that…' It just tipped me over the edge and I totally lost the plot.

I feel like shit. DS has been having a rough week at school, he's lost a lot of confidence in doing things he can normally do so two of his teachers have spoken to me about it, and I've been trying and trying all week to do things that will boost him and help his self-esteem. And then I blow all the good work by being a bitch mum this evening.

That's it really. Just feel shit and haven't got anyone I can tell. DH doesn't do emotional stuff beyond patting me on the arm or saying well don't do it again. And I need to have a good old howl.

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MrsCosmopilite · 31/01/2014 23:16

I'm sure that they have short memories at that age. DD is 3 and I was snappy with her today. We went out in the rain. Coming home I slipped on a drain cover and really pulled my back, and then got fed up with her whining about wanting to play with something that had been put away.

We had a cuddle and she was fine.

Tomorrow is another day. Don't beat yourself up, have a Wine and try again in the morning.

Svina · 31/01/2014 23:18

I empathise. Try rooting out the whining by enabling your dc to bitch about school as soon as they get in so that they get the hard done by feeling out of their system.

hookedonchoc · 31/01/2014 23:19

Aw, so sorry you're having a rough day. Have some Cake

You're human, you're going to screw up sometimes. But if you keep trying on those times you can control your temper and the good parenting outweighs the insane bitch from hell moments, your kids will be fine in the long run. I know, it's a very long run, it's a marathon not a sprint, but you will get there. I think it can be good for them too, sometimes, to see you're human and hear you apologise for losing your rag. Who wants perfect parents, how would he ever live up to that? You've got all weekend to make it up to him.

MissM · 31/01/2014 23:20

Tomorrow is another day. You're right. Just got to focus on making tomorrow ok!

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MissM · 31/01/2014 23:21

Thank you hooked. I won't have cake now cos I've just brushed my teeth but perhaps we'll all have it for breakfast in the morning! Hate feeling like this.

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superstarheartbreaker · 01/02/2014 20:25

Op whining is enough to drive anyone insane. I yell at dd when she does it because it's awful. Actually stopped the car today as she says I was a horrid mummy and I said I do everything for her. Could have cried.

FrequentFlyerRandomDent · 01/02/2014 20:47

Sorry. The nice thing with children is that you always get a chance to get it right again. Google Orange Rhino. The programme is great at helping you anticipate triggers / stop yelling.

Otherwise, the usual books are good, but not a effective on me:
1,2,3 Magic
How to talk to kids for kids to listen...

(((Hug)))

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