why why why..

[Youknownothing]

Left some time ago
I've try to fight first then When I finally noticed where did he put me in
I've try to defend myself

Nothing really worked
I don't even know where I stand now

Then when I've read some threads on MM
Which made me realize how being of Ea and MA victim you are in hopeless position

Why do victims no talk about being abused
why do they not ask for help

Why when finally they would get the currage
They can be accused of "revenge"
of doing things out of spite of lying

Or just of thing as simply as not being believed

When the victim dare to go even further on and ask, write to his abuser for simply word of explanation
It can happen that abuser can accuse of victim abusing him!!

Any form of abuse have a such powerful consequences in victims life

When you finally are feeling safe enough
To start to talk..

Can you really "run away" from your abuser and your past??

You can leave the sad sack behind for sure, not sure if it is exactly 'running away', moving on to something better might be a better description.
Imo an abuser will never give you an explanation, not an honest one anyway.

What are they going to say?
'Im a cnut, basically, who needs to belittle my partner to make myself feel powerful because I really am that pathetic' not likely is it.

As for why other people, wider society, including many women 'choose?' to believe the story of someone who is, more or less obviously, an abuser, well where do you begin, there can be a million reasons;

As we all grow up in a deeply misogynistic society we are all, women included, subject to the prejudices it has, and this affects peoples beliefs and behaviour.
People genuinely want to be fair and give people the benefit of the doubt.
Everyone feels safer with the established version of reality, which unfortunately for women is the narrative that men are heroic, naive and basically good, and women are basically childish, untruthful and manipulative.

The biggest issue imo is to forgive yourself
That you were so:
Weak and blind to let that happen
There were moments that you even believe it must be your foult
So stupid and naive to didn't stop it on time on first sign
forgive yourself that you naively and blindly thought you (that's the worst one) love that person

When in safe environment you would analyse step by step
your anger is kicking of anger mostly towards yourself

It's very destructive way to deal with situation which had occurred

Shame for letting yourself down so much

Disappointment also in all those people who you thought were your friends
but it is not their foult
You never actually complain...
Well it's so easy or just natural to believe after hearing one side of the story

Esspecially when to other side doesn't even know what's really going on

And well it's not a revenge or whatever you would like to name it

It is some strange need to understand that unexplainable!

To understand the hate manipulation cruelty
well the hate is the most proper word to describe it all

And the very danger effect to stop hating yourself for let all that happen