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How should I progress with this?

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secretsquirrel1 · 31/01/2014 00:06

After a particularly horrible divorce nearly 5 years ago, my DD & I relocated to the other side of the country last year (and I wanted to be a little nearer to my widowed mother). I have made quite a few good friendships, and I already knew people here so visited plenty of times before making the move.

Up until now, I have been happy to be on my own but now I'd like to start dating again. However, before I had a chance to start, I have just been contacted by my first love (via FR....don't laugh!) who I haven't seen for more than 30 years (he was the one to break it off).

His profile says he is single & he works in the same city as I do; he doesn't know I am here because I haven't used FR for years so I haven't updated my location.

I want to be honest when I reply - I'm wanting to say how fab our life is here in ... but I'm really unsure how to go about it. I don't want to be evasive/mysterious - I hate all that game playing/rules stuff - but equally, I don't want him to be freaked out either.

I am struggling with my possible underlying motives for even responding....would I be wanting to meet up in the future, just so I can find out what went wrong in the past?

Gaaahhh, help please! Grin

OP posts:
bragmatic · 31/01/2014 00:11

"Hi! lovely to hear from you. How are you? I see you work in XXXXX. So do I!"

DottyboutDots · 31/01/2014 06:43

Calm down. A light hearted response is all that is required, if you want to see him at all. If you don't, ignore it.

You also don't know if his FR is updated properly either.

"Hi! Lovely to hear from you, what a surprise! How are you? What are you up to?"

secretsquirrel1 · 31/01/2014 23:21

Thanks.....I agree Dotty, I know I need to calm down.
I'm not going to reply until I do.

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secretsquirrel1 · 05/02/2014 10:44

Update:

I've replied, kept it very brief and light-hearted.

He's currently working in the opposite end of the country but he talks of here being 'home' - he couldn't believe that I'd moved here!

Let's see how it goes.... Smile

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DottyboutDots · 05/02/2014 11:48

Hurrah! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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