How long do you think?

[gildedcage]

I posted a while ago about my discovery of my husband's fairly regular porn use.

I accept that I have to let go and believe me that I am certainly not dwelling on this on a day to day level. I'm also not using this as a stick to beat him with.

However I've noticed that while we are still intimate with each other I don't enjoy it the same way and can't remember the last time I climaxed...sorry for the over share but obviously I still have some hangups, is this normal? I feel as though I've held on to it long enough and want to move on but how?

I would never have thought I was so sensitive but I am also highly distrustful by nature...no bad experience just me. I know that I need to get the trust back but how?

Nope its not that...he has always been great at that and would always want to please me. I am very lucky I know but I have never had this problem with him. I think it is the emotional issues that are stopping me from being totally relaxed.

Personally I couldn't even be with a man, never mind have regular sex with him if I knew he was using porn, not surprised you don't feel the same way about him, regardless what anyone else says, you find it offensive, insulting and off putting, you're not alone in thinking that way.

In that case it's time and honesty between both of you till things dull down but it'll never be exactly the same again.

I think that's half the problem I'm not sure how honest he has been or will be with me. I only know because I looked and then denied minimised and deleted.

He's broken the trust you had in him, it's really up to him to restore that.

Yes he has broken my trust. I also fundamentally hate liars. But I have agreed to move on with him. There is no easy way for him to build that trust back, it will take a long time. I'm just so sad that I have lost what we had and question if we ever had it in the first place. All 'cos he wanted to get his rocks off to other women.