AIBU to ask?

[morgs22]

Back story, me and DS's dad were together for 3 years and recently split up, im 6 months pregnant, during our relationship I supported him financially with things like petrol to get to work/uni, uni fees, nights out etc. We were supposed to be moving in together and were saving up for a deposit, that's not happening now obviously. The problem is I still have to move, I live in a flat share so I have to start from scratch with furniture and everything as well as the deposit. I have asked him for £500 (very generous as the money I had given him during the relationship adds up to a lot more). I did say at the time I wouldn't ask for the money back because by helping him then im helping me in the future when we live together and have a family. He says im being petty and ridiculous asking him for money, he lives at home with his parents and only pays them £200pm, doesn't have to buy his own food or anything else. I want the money so I can buy a pram/cot etc so I can concentrate on saving for the deposit and everything else, the only thing he has offered to buy for the baby is a Liverpool sleepsuit. AIBU asking for the money or am I right that hes just being a selfish prick?

You are not at all unreasonable, but he is a selfish prick. Hopefuly someone can give you some proper advice on how to make him stand up to his bloody responsibilities, but please be assured you are not being unreasonable.

This baby is a joint responsibility and he needs to support the both of you. How on earth does he think it can be petty and ridiculous to ask for money?!

If he is not happy with handing over the money.
Suggest going baby shopping together and for him to buy these things himself, with you.

I dont think yabu, but at the same time i dont think he is either.

If he is not happy with handing over the money.
Suggest going baby shopping together and for him to buy these things himself, with you.

I dont think yabu, but at the same time i dont think he is either.

I don't think it should be about him paying back what you paid him before. I don't think it is reasonable to expect that money back.
But he should be paying you a regular amount anyway to support his child. And that is an entirely separate issue, regardless of how you supported him in the past, he has to take responsibility.

I think you are unreasonable to expect money in exchange for what you give as gifts during the relationship. I also don't see why he should help you with a deposit.

I don't think you are unreasonable to expect him to financially support his child, including providing towards a roof over their head.

Im not asking for the money back or for him to help with the deposit but for money to buy things for the baby and when he refused I brought up the fact that I had helped him throughout the relationship and that its his child as well so he should be offering to help not make me ask and have it flatly refused. It would help me not having to pay for everything by myself so I can save more towards a deposit. I have asked him to come with me and sent him links for baby shops with suggested items to buy and he still says no hes not paying a penny.

What a horrible selfish idiot.

Is he working and paying you maintenance for your DS? (assuming your son lives with you not him).

Selfish and prick.

Don't forget CSA when the baby is born.