DP STILL NOT DIVORCED WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

[nuttymum1]

my dps ex wifes sister phoned us last october to tell us that his ex is getting married again this year and to expect divorce papers we hadnt heard anything by december so i phoned her sister and asked if she was still divorcing him and she said she was well its now 10 months later and still nothing just wondered what anyone else would do in this position our ds is 16 mo and i feel that its about time they got divorced dp reckons that the bloke saw sense and done a runner! ( she was hard work aparentley!)

get him to divorce her?

We had same situation with DP's XW. He got fed up with waiting for her to get her arse into gear, and strated proceedings himself. We are now waiting for the decree nisae.

BTW, if it's cut and dried, ie no property/children etc, it may be worth potitioning the courts yourself. Much cheaper. This is how we are doing it. We just got the papers from the county court and they send any necessary paperwork to DPs ex and then back to us etc. I think it costs 300 quid, IIRC. Much cheaper then using a solicitor.

my dp didnt get divorced when he split from his wife. met me about 10 years later and after we had ds i made him get round to it. i hated the thought that some woman i didnt know was still legally his next of kin, i also made him make a will as i was told if you are still married with no will your husband/wife gets everything even if you have been separated for years and you have kids.

he finally got round to it, only cost a couple of hundred pounds and he didnt have to go to court as there were no kids involved (between him and her) and neither of them wanted anything from the other. i felt so relieved when it was done! if you have a child with him i would get him to make the first move. ring your local family court and they can send you all the paperwork, its very easy

they had no childern and we re-mortgaged to buy her out or her share of the house the have been seperated for about 4 years the only problem with him divorcing her is that 1 hes a man need i say anymore and 2 we cant really afford to

You can apply to the county court to get either a reduction of the costs or to get the costs covered if you are petitioning yourself. That's what we have done, and we haven't had to pay anything. You can apply for this even if you aren't on benefits, as they take into account any bills/mortgage you pay, and they take into account your children also.

well we have got a lot of debt and have had to join the cccs to pay them off so do you think there is a chance we wouldnt have to pay?

possibly, It's worth calling them to ask. We won't have to pay for DP's divorce, as we have a child and another on the way, plus no spare income every month (most of it goes on sodding rent!)

i found the county court to be very helpful, just call them and they can probably give you an idea over the phone. im not sure if its the same with divorce, but i know in other court proceedings the judge can decide to not charge the fee, so def worth a try!

If you get a divorce and don't make a Consent Order, your ex would still have claims for finances against you - so if you won the lottery, even if you were divorced, he/she could put in a claim.

If you do a DIY divorce, get a clean break consent order drawn up too FGS, so many people don't know this.