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My diet has lasted longer than my engagement

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Dumpedagain · 27/01/2014 07:57

Got engaged to dp at xmas he walked out on us yesterday me and 3dcs. Hes really gone hes taken all his stuff. Im heartbroke. He said loads of horrible stuff before he went probably just in the heat of the moment but it was stuff he knows hurts me. Hes had enough of me appreciating fuck all and never being happy. Funny thing is i was and i thought we was good. How was i meant to show him i was happy?

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TeenyW123 · 27/01/2014 08:02

Sounds to me like you're better off without him. Why should you have to keep second guessing as to what makes him happy? Or even how to act or what to say so HE believes you're happy?

Do NOT do the pick me dance. He's shown you his true colours. He knows how to hurt you and will carry on doing so, even if you bend to his every whim.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers, eg?

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Dumpedagain · 27/01/2014 08:10

I cant dance Grin i told him that if he was going he was to leave for good as i wasnt going to wait around for him to decide when he wanted us again. The more i think about it i know in my head that im glad hes gone as he was a prick at times, but its my heart that hurt.

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KouignAmann · 27/01/2014 08:12

Sorry for your pain dumped but he sounds like a drama llama. Everyday life is hard work and most of us moan a bit to our loved ones to let off steam. Does he only want the good bits?
He'll be back wanting to make up with lots of flowers and tears. Be prepared to tell him how much he has hurt you and don't let him off too easily.

MrsSteptoe · 27/01/2014 08:15

I wouldn't normally rephrase your posts for you, OP, but I think it's in your heart that you know you're glad he's gone and your head is the thing that's giving you trouble. Give your head a bit of time, and it'll catch up with your heart.

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Dumpedagain · 27/01/2014 08:17

Hes allowed to moan and be a mardy shite and snappy because hes got more stressful work things going on, (this is what he says) hes done it before left and given me a couple of weeks of shite and then he comes back but ive had enough of that and told him if he went this time it was for good and he still went.

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Dumpedagain · 27/01/2014 08:18

mrs thanks that does sound better

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daiseehope · 27/01/2014 08:24

my sensible head says lucky escape x

JeanSeberg · 27/01/2014 10:14

Stay strong and consider a change of user name Wink FreeAtLast perhaps?

In the meantime, get your house in order - see a solicitor, sort out the finances, get some real life support.

Who owns the house?

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