I hope I dont regret this:

[myroomisatip]

I just want to say that I read the Relationships topic often. It has been of enormous support and clarification to me.

I try sometimes to give back the help it has given to me, help that was actually directed at others because I felt my situation was too complicated to even consider posting about.

There are some posters here who devote so much time and effort to helping others. I just feel the need to point that out. I wish I could be as helpful but my mind is still a bit of a quagmire when it comes to boundaries. Not only that but I am too overwhelmed and sad when I read some of these posts that I am left feeling unable to help.

I hope I am not being presumptious but I am sure I am not the only lurker who gained strength from the Relationships topic and I just want to say a truly heartfelt thanks to all of you who give so much time, effort and support! I wonder if you know that you can actually change peoples lives? :)

Why would you regret such a heartfelt post ?

I hope you are ok right now.

You have commented on my thread previously and it was of great help to me.

Sometimes it just helps to know that you have support from someone, even if they feel that they have no wise words to say, but I think you do.

I hope you get the peace you deserve soon.

I have been helped in shed loads. Hugely grateful to folk on here. Patient, generous and understanding in bucket loads. Thanks to cjel, bitoutofpractise, cottonbuds and putitonthelist. I do think the threads and advice that you encounter seep into your conscience . I know I've repeated advice, given to me, to a lovely friend of mine who's being dicked about by a totally unreliable bloke having a hard time lately.

It's invaluable. And good for those 'I just need to rant' or 'let me post here so I don't contact exp' type moments.

Wish I'd posted on here 4 yrs ago when exDP sniffed me out and I became a stupid twat OW. cog and AF could have told me get a f'ing grip. Hindsight.

Hand on heart, MN relationships and some of the posters helped to change my life for the better 5 years ago

Its always nice to see others feel the same!

I feel similarly, this board has had a massive impact on my own life. I see things in a completely different light to how I used to. I have had fairly extensive counselling following the period I was posting on MN, and that has really opened my eyes as to how 'spot on' some of the regular posters here are. I feel very grateful to mathanxiety and OxfordBags amongst others.

I often wonder what would have happened if I had had MN when I was with my ex. Would it have ended more quickly? Would I have learnt as much? This is a good place.

Well said....exactly the same here too. Lots of wise words spoken here, and although they haven't been directed at me, I've still taken them on board. Grateful that there are so many people who take time to try to help others.

I honestly do not think I would be here now if I hadn't been on mumsnet and had not received such good help. I was at rock bottom. Many of the mantras I was told, I still use. And I have now become good friends with some of the posters who posted on my thread. I will be forever grateful to them.

This board has helped me understand my relationship with my DM better (narcissistic tendancies) and has helped me to protect myself.

Also helped my relationship with my DH by reading other people's comments.