Have you ever left and gone far away? Did it help you heal and move on?

[Mummy321]

My relationship has broken down and my OH has literally left me holding the baby. And child. The relationship is definitely over.

I feel strong one minute but so weak the next minute. I think partly because I keep finding out more about him, so am getting continuous blows.

In reality I want to get up and go far far away... Everything reminds me of him, us , of our little family.

I have a few good friends nearby but no family. My parents are 3 hours away ( I have seen them quite a lot since the break up 6 weeks ago). I could make a long term plan to move near to them (I have to go back to work for 6 months here or pay back maternity pay, and also have a school aged child, so I can't drop all and go). But I am in my 30s and parents in 60s, and it seems pathetic to run "home". Is it?

Or return to the city where I grew up.... I don't know many people there now, but I have such fond memories of a happy childhood, I'd love to recreate that for DCs....

Or somewhere new to start afresh.....

Anyone moved after a breakup ? Did it work out for the better?

Thanks x

I've moved, but countries. I'm now in the UK, and the hardest part was deciding where to live as all my friends are all over the world, and my parents passed away. I have no close family. Staying overseas wasn't an option.

I picked somewhere nice to bring up dc, very good schools, not an isolated market town, plenty to do and not far from London, an hour on the train. Its not far from a city so I can work again and even - maybe, one day, go out on a date:) downside is I get lost ALL the time:)

If your family are supportive then its lovely for your dc to get to know them and nice for you- if they aren't then think where you like, nice town, lots of new friends to make. Its good to create your own life. Ask you friends what its really like- do you see them much and have they lots of friends? Don't move somewhere for friends - they can let you down or move away. You must like it anyway.

I moved with three kids aged one, three and five, I moved far away and tried to hide except I left one kid behind so I had to try and get her away from him,it took a long time but she i free of him too now, I had nightmares about him for years but he's gone from my head now, and my life, and all my kids' lives too. I am so glad I ran away. It took a long time to get my daughter away from him but the nightmare is over now, we haven't heard from him in two years, maybe two and half. The nightmares have stopped, we all feel safe. If you feel you need to run then run, and don't stop until you feel safe. It can be hard [in my experience] but it is worth it.

I considered it but instead ex h moved far away from me so I didn't need to . I stayed and built a new life in familiar surroundings.

I do plan to travel though.

What an inspiring story, Most. I'm happy to hear all your hard work and heartache paid off! Happy new life :)

I moved 80 miles from ex partner DS's dad last summer... He ended the relationship when I was pregnant & never so much as acknowledged ds
It was very hard to deal with considering he was a neighbour too, I tried to put on a brave face, told people I was fine & could handle it, along with lots of verbal abuse from him the final straw came when he moved his new gf in.. I was crushed. I started to really worry for my mental health as I felt I was heading for a breakdown. I have to say the saying 'out of sight out of mind' is very true!!
Life is far less stressful now & I can honestly say my broken heart is fixed. The down side is leaving family behind in that area but it's a small price to pay.