This is something that happened to me two years ago, but I never knew about this forum back then and you all seem to know everything so I wanted to ask retrospectively whether you thought this was a big deal or not.
My soon to be ex hubby was always a lovely guy, explosive sex life, both very up for it in the bedroom and open to each others fantasies. We had sex 4 - 6 times a week. Sometimes more.
One day a couple of years back was the only thing he ever did that really upset me and I wanted to know if I was being unreasonable or not.
I was quite ill one day with the flu, and I wanted him to come up for a cuddle because I'd been alone in bed all afternoon. I know this might be a bit needy but we were pretty close. He said he wasn't tired and stayed downstairs.
I came down for a drink and he flicked the internet window closed pretty quickly. I asked him if he'd been watching porn and he denied it.
We watched porn together all the time, and usually if he watched it without me he'd be really honest and say "I saw some good porn tonight when you were out", so I believed him.
Next day, for the first time since we met I checked the internet history and found out that over the past month he'd been looking at porn all the time without telling me, and had also done so on the night in question.
Only a few flicks through it, but it really, really hurt me that he'd lied about it. I flicked through porn myself a lot, so it wasn't the act of it that pissed me off, just lying.
What would anyone else think of this?