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How can I love dh again? Fallen out of love.

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CocktailQueen · 26/01/2014 11:48

Dh annoys me. We have been together 18 years and have two dc age 10 and 6. I gave always done the vast majority of housework and cooking, and was a sahm when the dc were smaller.

Now I find myself being more and more irritated with dh - the way he leaves his shoes in the way all the time, the way he watches football all the timw, his opinions, his politics, the way he disciplines the dc - everything annoys me.

I don't want sex because I don't feel close to him. On the surface all is fine and we get on ok, though it does seem like I have three dc sometimes. I gave to ask him to do house things etc, he wouldn't think of doing things unless prompted.

If it was just us, I think I'd have left him. But because we have the dc, I have put it to the back of my mind - it's not a thing I want to subject the dc to. They would be devastated.

But can I live like this for the rest of my life? Feeling stressed, low level resentment, like I always have to be in charge and thinking about homework, packed lunches etc?

Can anyone suggest how I can get the love back? I used to love him so so much, and feel really sad now.

Thanks if anyone can help.

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Preciousbane · 30/01/2014 23:14

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CocktailQueen · 30/01/2014 23:19

Ha, Precious, we have a coat cupboard but Dh has filled it up with all his other crappy pairs of sandals/winter boots etc instead of them being in the wardrobe upstairs!!!

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mydoorisalwaysopen · 21/05/2014 12:47

Sorry to resurrect this thread but wondered if your relationship with your husband has improved and if so, how did you do it?

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