Back story been with dp for 3 years live 200 miles apart see every week some weekends dependant on my ds who has Saturday school and goes to ex p when free. Dp and I get on really well plans to spend more time together when his business gets sold and my son flexi boards in three years he's been badly burnt in relationships very wary but over three years we've had therapy and grown closer slowly. Last year has been difficult external factors my dad died leaving me to sort out so much crap including a 27 year old bf wanting money, then my bf went personally bankrupt, then my lovely business of 15 years the landlord didn't resign lease so I moved it to my house which caused income stream to dry up partially ds father owed me money he cdnt pay it and normally I am a really positive person but have been really down for few months and me and dp have got into a rut which I didn't realise. Dp has put on weight which he hates we have lost a lot of fun in out limited times together anyway this week we went to therapy and he said he doesn't look forward to seeing me at the moment doesn't want sex and is pissed off about ex p not pulling his weight with my son. We have agreed to some time out and will see each other valentines weekend. I have read a lot on these boards for a while and have got a lot of strength from them and therapy I feal really sad but also feal positive in that I will be ok a few years ago I Wd have folded but now I know I can cope I'm bit scared and have wobbles but I am focusing on myself and what I want hope this fealing lasts