Bloody parents

[nutcracker]

My dad just rung to say he was close by at my cousins and was going to pop in for a cuppa.

He asked if the dragon was there (meaning my mum) and I said no but she said she will pop in later, and so he said 'oh i won't come then'.

FGS, bloody divorced parents are a pain in the ass.

He won't come just incase she comes too.

Mine used to be like that, he called my mum "the witch" and she called him the "fat baldy basta*d" Happy to report they can now visit at the same time, and even if he is driving here and she has no way over he will stop and collect her, after all, he lives at numer 14 and she lives at number 16

How long have they been divorced? It may get better?

They divorced 12 years ago and haven't seen or spoken to each other since.

Half of me prefers it that way cos it's nice and peaceful, but then it's so awkward sometimes too.

Now i feel guilty for not saying to him to come over and i'd put mum off, but then if i'd done that i'd feel guilty for putting mum off.

Feel about 11 again.

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dont see why you should feel guilty at all, i think any parent behaving like that deserves a slap! it is totally unreasonable putting you in that position and you have every right to tell them so. my parents are still together so i dont know how it feels to be in your place but one of my best friends parents have recently split up and she has had an awful time. her sister told them both plainly that she refused to listen to any bickering or sniping and actually stopped seeing them for a few months while they got the message. i have 2 kids whose father i detest (and i have very good reason) but i would never slag him off to the kids, i have no right to do so. tell your dad to grow up.

(that was supposed to be suportive btw, sorry it turned into a bit of a rant)

Yeah do feel a bit stressed right now tbh, am not having a good day.

Neither of my parents mean to make me feel guilty i don't think but I just do.

If my mum doesn't turn up now, i will be so annoyed.

How ridiculous. My parents separated about 7 years ago, and have been incredibly good about it in front of us. Neither of them has ever said a bad word about the other, and even when it got a bit fraught, they kept it between themselves. Which is how grown ups should behave, even when their children are grown ups. Very on your behalf.

I have told them both before how it annoys me.

My dad never ever visits me unannounced just incase she is here, which is pathetic yep, but at the same time, I'd panic so much if he did turn up and she was here.

He doesn't hate her, but she does hate him. Him calling her a dragon is just him, he doesn't mean it, however my mum can say truley nasty things about my dad.