Is your husband a miserable b**tard?

[Northerner]

Because mine is most of the time and it's really getting to me.

He has issues with his family and career and has always been hard work I guess and never the life and soul of the party but it's getting worse, and I'm worried it could drive us apart.

I hope I am understanding and supportive but you can only do so much can't you? I am fed up now and telling him to seriously lighten up, he takes that as me not giving a shit and being unsupportive. Vicious circe.

He thinks I don't want him around anymore and don't talk to him but it's hard to break this when he's so bloody miserable.

Can the cycle ever be broken?

my dh looms in dark corners and practices being invisible when we are out. its like going to a party with the Grim reaper.

good to see you havent lost your sense of humour cremolafoam.

I do find myself doing the same now. If his family want to visit I will make allsorts of excuses not to have to socialise (its almost a revenge)!

Lol at Grim reaper

Yes my dh is deeply suspicious of everyone, always thinks the worst and is ever so cynical. His cup is always half empty but mine is always half full.

But his misery is draining my cup.

DH seems to go through this in waves.

Before DS I used to spend a lot of effort trying to cheer him up, alwasy me suggesting where we go, what we do, oterhwise he would just go to work and then mooch about doing nothing much and seeing no-one teh rest of the time.

He isn;t like it all the time, but when he gets in one it lasts for weeks.

Try asking what's wrong and you just get deafening silences.

Anyway I've decided I don;t have the energy for it any more so he can go and sulk in the shed for months for all I care, and come out when he's ready to be nice again.

is he depressed? if so, maybe he shouldn't be turning to you so much, for both yr sakes but to counsellor/doctor..

my husband stays at home (i.e. no job)and i feel that he does virtually nothing except for play party poker on the computer. There are loads of little jobs for him to be getting on with.i am stressed.help

i know this thread was a long time ago, but my husband is the same. i'm sitting upstairs as i can't bear the sight of his misserable face any longer.

i hope it has got better for you lot. there must be hope somewhere!!

No, but my Ex-husband is.

its called being married miserable times! [hgrin]
joking aside hope you sort out him out.

What piellabakewell said!

Not from Yorkshire... but yes he is!

My dp's a bit of a miserable git, not sociable either, and I'm a bubbly sociable type too. I just socialise as much as poss with friends and get on with my life - he's a great babysitter

One thing that does get me down sometimes is thinking about how much of a moan he could be when or if he gets to be an old man, and having to listen to him all day!

Oops old thread. Now wondering if posters are still with their miseryguts dps/dhs and whether they are still moaning.

Yep, got one too. They're grumpy bastards in London as well. Told him to piss off to his dads for a few days on Saturday. That usually does the trick for a while

Ooh hello can I join please. I know its an old thread, but clearly still relevant.

Northern too (he is, I am not originally although both here now).

He loves staying in, seems to hate any hint of an activity that involves leaving the house and I think we are actually stagnating....

Tried cajoling, talking, sympathy, yelling, counselling (worked but bloody expensive) and am now at the ignoring point.

Seriously considering the 'if you cant 'em join 'em' approach now.....

Are you lot from ages ago still with them then??

I know how all you ladies feel! I am married to a grumpy old bastard too. He can be so argumentive. Like today I took him for a ride to the swap mart to get out of the house. He right away tells me where to park etc. Then on leaving I make a mistake turning onto the road but it was ok. He just gets under my skin especially when I am driving. He has arthritis and takes pain meds, he recently had banged his shoulder too. I gather a lot of his mood weights on this. I must say though I was hoping for a better life, one day I will have it just tolerating him can be so exasperating.

Goodness me, old thread.

Fucking hell, only just realised just HOW OLD THS THREAD IS!

LoL

Ladies....
What is up with you all!?
Men are easy to sort out;

Buy em a shed.
Make sure there's biscuits in the cupboard.
Hump him now and then...... SORTED!

hi just reading this thread, is anyone still on here that posted and hows it going with grumpy partners?

You've described my husband there, only must add on he's never satisfied with anything in life. I've always made sure he has a meal on the table. We aren't in debt, we have 3 holidays a year. He can't cope with winter. I've bought him some golf clubs for Xmas hoping to get him out of my way now. I don't think he cares about me now or I don't feel the closeness anymore, he talks to me quite aggressively these days. I've lost the sight in my left eye and feel unattractive.

Try adding the fact that hes been poorly and his mother is also on his side to the mix and you realise you don't stand a chance! Kids are the only thing that keep me here.