AnyFucker, TonAndFeather, MadbusLady, SandyDilbert- just wanted to say thank you!

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Ladies you posted on my original thread - i was looking for advice & you gave it - i didnt want to believe that my marriage was over but sadly it is and I made DH leave last night - i still dont know if anyone else is involved but will no longer be surprised if that is the case. I'm a mess - the kids are a mess - but just wanted to say thank you for being there in the first place.

any body else reading this & wondering what is going on with your DH - please listen to these ladies - they know what they are talking about - their advice will initially come across as quite harsh and may not be want you really want to hear but keep reading as i have done and it will eventually give you the strength you need to take control of the situation and do what is right for you.

Thank you

Just wanted to say well done and I hope your peace of mind comes very soon. Cogito always impresses me with her summing up of a situation.

It is great that you have realised the right thing to do for yourself.

Keep posting for support, this is the first step and these wonderful women won't abandon you, the advice and humour will keep you going.

Oh love, you're welcome. I hope you manage to have a good day today - come and post if you wobble, and I know you've got a lot of reading to do.

Whether it's infidelity or something else, he now HAS to start making his intentions clear and sorting himself out. I think, looking back over your threads, you've been patient with him, managed him, talked to him a lot, given him a lot of options, suggested joint counselling etc. You must be exhausted. Somebody on one of the threads characterised his behaviour over the last month or so as "lazy cruelty" and I think that sums it up.

Gosh that was a surprise to see my name!

I'm glad your patience has run out. Good luck.