Looking at ex's pictures

[laura20]

My partner has been looking at his ex's pictures on Facebook along with a few other girls only noticed when I went on history to order the cot I've been looking at as we have an 11 week old baby.

Other than this I have trusted him but this made me have a quick look on his Facebook as I was worried but no messages off any women. Should I be worried?

*a few other girls"...?

I wouldn't be, but then I'm friends with my big ex and chat, text, go have drinks with him with no ulterior motive and absolutely no suspicion from my DP.

Did his ex play a big part in his life? It's normal to be curious about people you used to be involved with.

Ultimately it boils down to trust. Do you trust him?

I sometimes nosey at my ex's facebook doesn't mean i'm going to drop my partner and run back to the bellend. Im just nosey and want to see what they have been doing. Has he done anything else to make you worry ?

I must admit I do sometimes have a nose at my ex's Facebook but it doesn't mean anything to me and I am happy with my partner soo suppose I can't really say anything.

And no he hasn't done anything else to make me suspicious he's a brilliant dad And never once stayed out late since the baby's been born or while I was pregnant.

lol @ Hetty

I occasionally look at mine too but no plans to do a runner with any of them. I'm sure there's nothing more to it than that, hopefully. Does he look at photos of his other friends or only girls?

There was just a couple of other girls names that I didn't recognise but he does look tamale friends photos too.

At male*

I too have looked at ex's Facebook profiles when I like to thank my lucky stars how my life has panned out and to be delighted at how shit the lives of my ex's have tuned out after how they treated me

Makes me glad that my old feelings of hatred and longing for revenge weren't acted on. Karma is a wonderful thing, and as Lilly Allen says, 'At first, I feel bad for a while, and then I just smile'.

Just nosiness!

Normal human curiosity.

Even more normal when he's just taken a very big 'step forward' in life - ie having a child. He's probably feeling on top of the world and happily noseying at her pics thinking 'hmm how BLAND, not like lucky meee with my amazing baby...!' That kind of thing. Perfectly normal.

I think if it was usual circumstances I wouldn't bat an eye lid but with having an 11 week old baby just made me feel a bit down and doesn't help my hormones are still everywhere

That's totally understandable Laura x

Can you tell us more about the few other girls he is looking at?

I didn't recognise the names but had a little nose and they do live in our area

Unless they had posted suggestive pictures or sent messages, why exactly are you worried?

It just made me feel a bit down and with having a baby 11 weeks ago I don't feel very confident with my looks at the moment but I think it maybe worrying over nothing

But he has looked at men's pictures too.
How many times has he looked at each of them?

His ex's name was on there about 8 times since April last year

That's about once a month, not a lot, is it? :)

Is he giving you any other cause for concern?

No nothing at all.

Op having a baby often makes women feel quite vulnerable especially in the early months. The whole day is spent feeding and caring fir the baby and we look to our partners to provide practical and emotional support. If we suspect he is checking other women out, it can heighten that vulnerability even if the reasons are just nosiness. It feels like he's 'looking elsewhere' which can make us feel worse given that women don't look and feel their best after pregnancy.
If he is a great dad and partner then ask him for some support. Tell him you're feeling vulnerable and this is the time to step up and make you feel good about yourself.