Is this suspicious???

[LovingWINE]

Help! My husband has been on a business trip this week. We have had some 'trust issues' in the past that have basically left me a bit screwy.
He left home on tue morning and called me in the evening, but it missed it, and then he text to say he was back from dinner and I could call if I wanted to chat. I was watching tv with the children and waited till our programme had finished. When I called at 915 pm I got no reply. I sent a text also but got no reply till the morning. He said he'd fallen asleep... Because of our past I really struggle with being home alone and we'd discussed how I could only cope with this trip if we kept in touch... I can't tell if I feel bad because he didn't care enough to stay awake to chat, or if he's lying(again). Basically...I don't know which way is up....he messes my head!

So what's the background Op, what has he previously lied about which makes you suspicious?

I think you have nothing to worry bout I think he did just fall sleep. Not having a lot off trust can cause you to think off things that may not be there see how he is over the next few days

This sounds hard for you. Well, he seems to be making the effort to stay in touch doesn't he?

From an outsiders point of view it's hard to say whether this is suspicious. Normally tbh, no not at all, it would be fine if this was a normal relationship. But this isn't, is it?

on it's own and not knowing the context of your relationship, it doesn't sound suspicious no.

We've had that scenario so many times when I've been away on business, but it hasn't caused any concern because we've never had any trust issues. That said, if we've been like ships in the night we've usually managed some form of communication.

My phone usually wakes me up when it rings though. Did he have his switched off or on silent then?

This sounds quite normal - if I'm ever away on business I'll often fall asleep very early as there's nothing much to do after dinner.

He's called you a few times and isn't AWOL in any way, I would relax and stop worrying unless the trust issues you have are based on previous form.

I wouldn't be worried. But then again, I don't know what the trust issues are about but it is perfectly possible he did just fall asleep. Especially if he had been on a long flight.

You haven't given much information but based purely on his actions on that night. No not suspicious.

jeez, I'm tired, I need to sleep, WTF is wrong with that?

He did stay in touch though.

He phoned you - you missed his call.
He texted you to say he was back and could talk - and you didn't.
When you called him back - he'd fallen asleep.

Based only on what you have given and asked about his actions that night, no, not suspicious.

Depends on what happened in the past to damage your trust in him.

Wouldn't thunk it odd if I trusted my partner

But trust is one if those weird things that when you have it, you barely even notice its presence.

When it's gone, you notice its absence all the time. Often deafeningly loudly.